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Self-Discipline

Self-Discipline

Self discipline means deliberately aligning our energy with our values and priorities. Through mental practice we focus in on a task before us and let other temptations and distractions pass us by. Self-discipline asks that we endure frustration, disappointment, and pain in the service of a higher goal. It means being willing to push ourselves to the limits of our will and endurance if that is what is needed for success.

Self-discipline need not be harsh; it can take the form of a quiet resolve or determination that then directs our choices. It is exacting, but is rarely served by our being self-critical or self-denigrating. Self-discipline allows us to make use of whatever power and capabilities have been given us, to be all that we can in the service of our dreams. Self-discipline is doing what you know needs to be done, motivated by the goal you have in mind while avoiding short-term gratification. To prevent corruption, it needs to be tempered by compassion and integrity. You can make money by honestly trading your work for wages, for example, or you can make money stepping on other people on the way up. When you get to the end of your life, and look back though, which way will have brought you more pride and pleasure?

Self-discipline is accomplished through amalgamation of determination, energy and focus. Determination keeps us firmly centered on a chosen purpose. It is the tool we use to keep defeat from becoming permanent. Sometimes we find ourselves distracted from our central goal by other desires. We get overwhelmed by obstacles, isolation, pain or fatigue. At these times, determination pushes onward and gives us the energy to triumph. By keeping us on a path, determination helps us to make our dreams into realities and to live by our highest values.

Focus is the ability to devote our full attention and concentration to a person or process. Focus lends clarity and direction to our day to day activities. It lets us maximize our progress and productivity by directing our energies toward one priority at a time. By honing our focus we can reach new levels of insight, knowledge and quality. When we give our undivided focus to another person, they feel valued by us. We can connect with them in more meaningful ways, increasing the potential for understanding and empathy.

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Reinvent Yourself by Choice

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People reinvent for different reasons: to get a better life, to be more respected, to make more money, to be happier, to get a stronger body, to find a better relationship, to know God, or to make life more interesting. If your ears perk up when you hear about the lawyer who gave it all up to become a fashion designer or the auditor who ditched her accounting firm to start her own pet clothing company, and you wonder how they did it – reinvention is the answer.

If you are curious about what is typical and what is rare among the cases you have seen – the person who yearns for change but remains stuck or the person leaves it all for something completely different – you’re ready for a reinvention! We’ve all heard of or known people who have ditched their successful careers, given up the stability of the life they’ve created and switched gears to go in a new direction and become something or someone else. It’s not easy nor is it safe, but it’s a way get back on track and pursue our unfulfilled dreams and potential. Sometimes it’s a reflection of how we’ve changed and what we now want or need.

We have all reinvented ourselves in some capacity at some point in our lives. Sometimes it’s a conscious, calculated choice we make, like pursuing a dream. Other times the reinvention is a product of necessity, when we are forced to change because of external factors, like becoming a caregiver for an aging parent, being the victim of a crime or finding ourselves in a health crisis.

Most of the time, though, people reinvent themselves because of their circumstances, making the reinvention a "must." When we’re contemplating making a shift to pursue a goal or dream, we often categorize it as a "should." But shouldn’t we classify our goals and dreams as "musts?" The answer is absolutely, positively Yes! Successful people are already using this strategy. We all have the capability to have success if we choose to apply the reinvention tool by choice.

Think about how quickly we reinvent ourselves during a crisis. We barely have time to think about it, let alone choose. It’s done. All other matters are no longer important. Imagine that you’re going about your life, showing up at work, taking care of the kids and the house and then Wham, catastrophe strikes. All of a sudden, your world is literally turned upside down and your reinvention consumes your life. You surrender to your new role. You re-prioritize your life based on the external event. Choosing to be a cause for a reinvention doesn’t rate very high for most people. We find we’re better at clean-up than we are at putting our energy and attention on creating what we truly want.

We are not what we do. We are the result of the meanings we attached to the compilation of the experiences in our lives. Every door opened to us and closed behind us represents an opportunity for reinvention.

Changing Minds

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Changing Minds

Almost half a century ago social psychologist Leon Festinger developed the cognitive dissonance theory. The theory has obviously stood the test of time in that it is mentioned in most general and social psychology textbooks today. The theory is somewhat counterintuitive and, in fact, fits into a category of counterintuitive social psychology theories sometimes referred to as action-opinion theories. The fundamental characteristic of action opinion theories is that they propose that actions can influence subsequent beliefs and attitudes. This is counterintuitive in that it would seem logical that our actions are the result of our beliefs and attitudes, not the cause of them. However, on further examination of these types of theories have great intuitive appeal in that the theories, particularly cognitive dissonance, address the pervasive human tendency to rationalize.

Cognitive dissonance theory is based on these fundamental assumptions. Humans are sensitive to inconsistencies between actions and beliefs. According to the theory, we all recognize, at some level, when we are acting in a way that is inconsistent with our beliefs, attitudes, and opinions. In effect, there is a built in alarm that goes off when we notice such an inconsistency, whether we like it or not. For example, if you have a belief that it is wrong to cheat, yet you find yourself cheating on a test, you will notice and be affected by this inconsistency. Recognition of this inconsistency will cause dissonance, and will motivate an individual to resolve the dissonance. Once you recognize that you have violated one of your principles, according to this theory, you won’t just say “oh well”. You will feel some sort of mental anguish about this. The degree of dissonance, of course, will vary with the importance of your belief, attitude, and principle and with the degree of inconsistency between your behavior and this belief. In any case, according to the theory, the greater the dissonance the more you will be motivated to resolve it.

Dissonance will be resolved in one of three basic ways. Perhaps, the simplest way to resolve dissonance between actions and beliefs is simply to change your beliefs. You could, of course, just decide that cheating is okay. This would take care of any dissonance. However, if the belief is fundamental and important to you such a course of action is unlikely. Moreover, our basic beliefs and attitudes are pretty stable, and people don’t just go around changing basic beliefs, attitudes and opinions all the time, since we rely a lot on our world view in predicting events and organizing our thoughts. Therefore, though this is the simplest option for resolving dissonance it’s probably not the most common.

A second option would be to make sure that you never do this action again. Lord knows that guilt and anxiety can be motivators for changing behavior. So, you may say to yourself that you will never cheat on a test again, and this may aid in resolving the dissonance. However, aversive conditioning that is to say guilt and anxiety can often be a pretty poor way of learning, especially if you can train yourself not to feel these things. Plus, you may really benefit in some way from the action that’s inconsistent with your beliefs. So, the trick would be to get rid of this feeling without changing your beliefs or your actions, and this leads us to the third, and probably most common, method of resolution.

A third and more complex method of resolution is to change the way you view, remember, and perceive your action. In more colloquial terms, you would rationalize your actions. For example, you might decide that the test you cheated on was for a dumb class that you didn’t need anyway. You may say to yourself that everyone cheats so why not you? In other words, you think about your action in a different manner or context so that it no longer appears to be inconsistent with your actions. If you reflect on this series of mental gymnastics for a moment, you will probably recognize why cognitive dissonance has come to be so popular. If you’re like me, you notice such post-hoc rationalizations of behavior on the part of others all the time, though it’s not so common to see it in one’s self.

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