Archive for June 2013
You can find innumerable ideas to help sleep and stay asleep. But I always have had this question. How many of us are really going to bed with the intention of sleeping? This particular question sounds silly, but when i asked my colleagues and friend to answer they fumbled. It may seem that falling asleep is something we all know how to do, because we do it every night. But do we really know how to fall asleep? There needs to be an intention to sleep like every other intention in our day to day life. There might be an intention to go to bed but the intention of sleep may not be there. There lies the difference and the secret of sound sleep.
Most of us believe that tiredness of daily labor will send us to sleep, but it happens only on the extremes and on occasions. if we to need to sleep daily for refreshing ourselves for the later, we need to go to bed with only one intention, of sleeping. Lack of preparation could have something to do with the fact that more than half the population of the world complain of sleep problems. In order to maximize your sleep time, begin your preparations for sleep during the day, schedule your sleep patterns deliberately, and practice habits that help your body to relax before sleep and last but not the least control your sleep environment. AS you can see, these things cannot happen with out ones own willingness and intention. If you want to be re-born everyday have the will to sleep.
“Each night, when I go to sleep, I die and the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn.”― Mahatma Gandhi.
Man was not intended to live like a bear or a hermit, apart from others of his own nature, and, philosophy and reason will each agree with me, that man was born for sociability and finds his true delight in society. Society is a word capable of many meanings. Society, par excellence; the world at large; the little clique to which he is bound by early ties; the companionship of friends or relatives; even society tête-à-têtes with one dear sympathizing soul, are pleasant states for a man to be in.
This society, composed, as it is, of many varying natures and elements, where each individual must submit to merge his own identity into the universal whole, which makes the word and state, is divided and subdivided into various cliques, and has a pastime for every disposition, grave or gay; and with each division rises up a new set of forms and ceremonies to be observed if you wish to glide down the current of polite life, smoothly and pleasantly.
The young man who makes his first entrance into the world of society, should know how to choose his friends, and next how to conduct himself towards them. Experience is, of course, the best guide, but at first starting this must come second hand, from an older friend, or from books.
A judicious friend is the best guide; but how is the young man to know whom to choose? When at home this friend is easily selected; but in this country, where each bird leaves the parent nest as soon as his wings will bear him safely up, there are but few who stay amongst the friends at home.
True a book will not fully supply the place either of experience or friendly advice, still it may be made useful, and, carefully written from the experience of heads grown gray in society, with only well authenticated rules, it will be a guide not to be despised by the young aspirant for favor in polite and refined circles.
You go into society from mixed motives; partly for pleasure, recreation after the fatigues of your daily duties, and partly that you may become known. In a republican country where one man’s opportunities for rising are as good as those of another, ambition will lead every rising man into society.
You may set it down as a rule, that as you treat the world, so the world will treat you. Carry into the circles of society a refined, polished manner, and an amiable desire to please, and it will meet you with smiling grace, and lead you forward pleasantly along the flowery paths; go, on the contrary, with a brusque, rude manner, startling all the silky softness before you with cut and thrust remarks, carrying only the hard realities of life in your hand, and you will find society armed to meet you, showing only sharp corners and thorny places for your blundering footsteps to stumble against.
You will find in every circle that etiquette holds some sway; her rule is despotic in some places, in others mild, and easily set aside. Your first lesson in society will be to study where she reigns supreme, in her crown and holding her sceptre, and where she only glides in with a gentle hint or so, and timidly steps out if rebuked; and let your conduct be governed by the result of your observations. You will soon become familiar with the signs, and tell on your first entrance into a room whether kid gloves and exquisite finish of manner will be appropriate, or whether it is “hail, fellow, well met” with the inmates. Remember, however, “once a gentleman always a gentleman,” and be sure that you can so carry out the rule, that in your most careless, joyous moments, when freest from the restraints of etiquette, you can still be recognizable as a gentleman by every act, word, or look.
Avoid too great a restraint of manner. Stiffness is not politeness, and, while you observe every rule, you may appear to heed none. To make your politeness part of yourself, inseparable from every action, is the height of gentlemanly elegance and finish of manner.
- Etiquette (2012yearbookblog.com)
- General Etiquette for Gentlemen (westimagemanagement.wordpress.com)
- Social Etiquette (victorinspire.wordpress.com)
- Good manners are society’s means to one end (equus4ever.wordpress.com)
To achieve great things, you need strong feelings. What drives high-achievers? The answer is passion. Why are feelings such a commanding motivator? An intense strong feeling is the last thing you think about before you go to bed at night and the first thing you think about when you wake up. Intense strong feeling is like an addiction, and if someone told you to stop, it would be unworkable for you to give it up. Those who have been fortunate enough to know and chase their passions don’t mind if they are getting paid to do it or not. It is a part of the purpose, the calling in life, and without it, a bit is lost.
Fervor stimulates will. Ardor turns have-to into want-to. If I want something badly enough I will find the resolve to attain it, and won’t stop attempting until I reach it. Zeal is the essence of dedication. Enthusiasm is what deeply stirs us. Passion is the fire from within that motivates us. When fervor is missing, actions lack meaning and we don’t get the results we desire. Passion is the seed from which devotion blossoms.
However, following our passion is not simple or easy as it sounds. Those once-in-a-lifetime moments where what someone loves to do fall right into lap is infrequent. For most people, making time in their lives to do what they love takes patience, hard work, and persistence. It also depends on what you are passionate about. Some are lucky enough to have passions that fit nicely into a business model or into the business world, so if they work hard enough, are patient enough, and are persistent enough, they can turn their passion into a realistic career. Unfortunately, that is not the case for everyone. But that doesn’t mean you have to forego pursuing your passion.
Work is only one component of our lives or it should be. You need to make the commitment to find time and opportunities to get out and do things you feel intensely. In our overscheduled world, it is tough to carve out time to do things we truly love, but no one who seriously talks about pursuing their passion ever says it is easy. They do, however, unequivocally say that it is worth the effort.
It is vital to keep in mind that passion requires energy to grow and one of the best ways to get that energy is to share it with others. Just like a plant needs water, passion needs to be nurtured every day in order for it to grow to the point where it becomes understandable to the rest of the world. There is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one we are capable of living.
What a feeling, first when there is nothing but a slow glowing dream that your fear seems to hide deep inside your mind. All alone, crying silent tears full of pride in a world made of steel, made of stone. Well, I hear the music, close my eyes, feel the rhythm, wrap around, and take a hold of my heart. What a feeling is being and believing. I can have it all, now I am dancing for my life. Take my passion and make it happen. Now pictures come alive, I can dance right through my life. Now I hear the music, close my eyes, I am rhythm. In a flash it takes hold of my heart. Now I really have it all.
It is one thing to make a mistake; it is another thing to keep making it. When you let yourself get close to someone, when you start to believe they love you; you would be disappointed. Hinge on someone, and you might as well admit you are going to be trampled, for the reason that when you really need them, they wouldn’t be there. Either that, or you open your heart to them and you add to their problems. All you ever really have is yourself and that kind of bad or rubbish if you are less than reliable.
Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment. This includes hard luck, ill health, defeat, and moment of delight, flash of sadness or obsession. Every moment is a spiritual guide.
That which is called mind, which projects all thoughts, is an awesome power existing within the Self; one’s real nature. If we discard all thoughts and look to see what remains when there are no thoughts, it will be found that there is no such entity as mind remaining separate from those thoughts. Therefore, thought itself is the nature of the mind. There is no such thing as ‘the world’ independent of thoughts. There are no thoughts in deep sleep, and there is no world. In waking and dream there are thoughts, and there is also the world. Just as a spider emits the thread of a web from within itself and withdraws it again into itself, in the same way the mind projects the world from within itself and later reabsorbs it into itself. When the mind emanates from the Self, the world appears. Consequently, when the world appears, the Self is not seen, and when the Self appears or shines, the world will not appear.
If one goes on examining the nature of the mind, it will finally be discovered that what is taken as mind is really only one’s self. That which is called one’s self is really one’s real nature. The mind always depends for its existence on something tangible. It cannot subsist by itself. It is the mind that is called the subtle body or the soul.