Babies don’t worry about making mistakes or humble themselves. They walk, they fall, and they get up and go. As you approach a challenge, you might question your ability to do it. You might think you don’t have the talent to meet that challenge. Then there is lingering question, what if I fail—I will be a failure. People will laugh at me for thinking I had talent to handle the challenge. If I don’t try, I can protect myself and keep my dignity.
As you hit a setback, you might feel that this would have been very easy if you really had talent. You sensed the risk and have shown people how limited you are. You can give up, make excuses, and could have regained self-respect. As you face criticism, hear the criticism and take responsibility to fix it. Listen to criticism though it is very painful and find out whatever you can.
How you understand challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice. You can interpret them as a sign that you lack talent or ability. You can also interpret them as a sign that you need to rise up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself, and expand your abilities. It’s up to you to choose.
Over time, what course of action you take becomes your natural choice. You will take on the challenge wholeheartedly and learn from your setbacks and try again. Practice seeing both sides of a challenge, and act with a growth mindset.
LiveJournal Tags: comparison
We enjoy comparison. It is a personality flaw hidden deep in our heart. We compare using diverse metrics: Job title, income level, house size, and worldly successes. Using relativity is how most of us make decisions in life. Once we start down that road of comparison, there is no end. Comparison is always unfair. It makes us miserable because of resentment and envy. We are too unique to compare fairly. Comparisons result in bitterness; bitterness towards others and towards ourselves and rob us of joy.
It’s easy to see the success of others as a reminder of your own shortcomings, but your envy is really a window into seeing what qualities you should improve upon. Don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides. You have no idea what it took for them to get there. Don’t act like this was unearned, effortless, or pure dumb luck. Comparison can be a dark, stuck place, but only if you allow it to be. There is light to be found in your comparison habit, if you’re willing to look for it. The light we see in others can help us see our own and appreciate it.
No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you. So, instead of training to stop comparing altogether, we can simply redirect the comparison to a past and a present self and keep the comparison within. Comparing ourselves with someone else is an inaccurate and inappropriate measuring stick. To deal this it is recommended we control the circles in which we compare ourselves. You consciously move away from people who boast of their big salaries and talk with someone else instead. When spending or purchasing, consciously only view things that are truly within your budget.
If we do move up the ranks, it is clear that we will only stay satisfied with this higher standard of living for a short period of time before we restart looking to an even higher standard. The more we have, the more we want. If you took the strengths of others, and compared them to your weaknesses, how do you think you’d size up? Do you think this would make you feel good? Being able to look at your own strengths, and see your true value is the key to success, because without this ability, you will be unmotivated, and won’t believe in yourself. The only cure for this is to break the cycle of comparison.