We change for two reasons, either we learn enough that we want to change, or we have been hurt enough that we have to change. Without healthy personal boundaries, we feel exhausted, is unable to focus, and feel consumed by drama around us, in both our personal and professional lives. As a result, we deal with lot of conflict, fail to take care of self, and generally dislike the work we like. When our boundaries are weak, unguarded, or unclear, we let in all sorts of stuff that isn’t actually our stuff, and we give away our own personal energy unconsciously.
Grounding is akin to the way a tree sinks roots to stay secure in a storm. It’s the first step in creating healthy boundaries—nurturing a connection with ourselves, our centers. It keeps us from being blown about in other people’s winds. It gives us a way to focus and still ourselves to connect with our heart and our intuition. That’s what keeps us steady and connected and focused. Take an inventory of your feelings regarding another person. Think about how you feel when you’re around someone who drains you and upsets you. How does this feel in your body? How does it feel in your mind? These feeling that signify of something bigger, something that’s wrong. Bad feelings are like your personal security system warning that your personal energy field has been breached, and you’re letting in stuff that isn’t yours.
Notice the people and places that tend to drain you. Before entering those places or exposing yourself to those people put on a protective energy around you. Think of it as a space that will only allow love and positivity inside it, deflecting anything else. Really see it and really feel the force of it around you. Then recognize what you need to do to maintain that space.
Maintaining healthy boundaries with difficult people can be, well, difficult. That’s because they don’t want you to have boundaries in the first place. It may not be a conscious decision. It’s often the only relationship strategy they know, but regardless of whether it’s intentional, the result is the same–your boundary has been violated.
Realize that your needs are important. When you doubt your own importance, you’re allowing the manipulations of difficult people to gain a foothold. However, when you understand that your time, money, dignity and needs are vital to your well-being, it’s easier to tune out people who want to break your boundaries.
If you doubt your importance, be with people who value you. Your social group is like a mirror, reflecting your value back to you. You can surround yourself with selfish, difficult people who reflect you have little self-worth, which you eventually start to believe. You can surround yourself with caring, loving people and start believing that you’re also worthy of love and care. Build self-worth and pinpoint the obstacles that prevent you from valuing yourself. Be objective. Just being human means you deserve fundamental rights and respect, but if you look a little deeper you might find unique qualities you can appreciate about yourself. Be fair. If you believe all people deserve respect, this includes you. If you allow others to treat you like dirt, and you believe they’re entitled to do so, you’re not being fair.
Be firm and kind. Being firm doesn’t mean being callous, belittling or hurting another person. You can be firm and loving, firm and validating. For instance, you’ve gone on several dates with the same person, but you just don’t click. You let the person know, but they keep persisting and want to continue the relationship. Then you might say: “I really enjoyed our time but I’m not interested in pursuing a relationship. Please don’t contact me. I wish you the best.
Have realistic expectations. If you know the person is difficult for you to have a relationship with and doesn’t respect your boundaries, limit the amount of time or the place of your interaction so you can have healthy boundaries.
Many times, it is important to confront difficult people and put them in their place, but sometimes walking away is a better approach. It is like a tornado coming your way; rather than face it, the best response is to retreat. Some people are simply too toxic to confront.
How you approach your boundaries is up to you. Difficult people want you to believe that you’re over-reacting. Again, this is our decision – not the difficult person’s who’s trying to cross your boundary. Assess the situation and figure out how you’d like to enforce your limits. When difficult people violate your boundaries, use it as an opportunity to better understand who you are and what’s important to you, and to develop the voice to claim your territory and declare your value.
It is tough to manage my time when time doesn’t exist. Time is a measured or measurable period during which an action, process, or condition exists. Management is to exercise executive, administrative, and supervisory direction of something. Can you really manage time? Can you really oversee it and direct it? Can you stretch it or condense it? Can you change time in any way? What people mean when they say time management is better termed action management. We can manage a portfolio and grow it, manage our personal finances and alter them, hopefully for the better, or manage a sports team to win a championship, but no matter how hard we try, we cannot manage time and alter it or change it in any way. Each person only has 24 hours a day to get things done. Time available to us is fixed, how we use it makes the difference. I suppose someone influential coined the term “time management” and it has stuck. The point is still how we use the time available. Those who seem to get more things done simply better manage their own actions.
Good action is working on one thing at a time, bringing it to completion because completed projects rarely come back to haunt you. It feels great to complete a task and it motivates you to complete the next. It can have a snowball effect when you are lining up tasks and completing them. Also, lining up tasks by planning ahead is what separates a good manager from a great manager. Poor managers think they can multi-task, missing the opportunity to focus on anything. The concentration becomes diffused and ineffective. You can only have one top priority at a time. Good effective corrective and preventive action management is an integral part of life and is critical to any continual improvement plan. You should capture, track, and maintain accurate, auditable non-conformance records. You should provide an end-to-end solution that help capture and profile findings from anywhere in your operations, conduct investigations to determine the root cause of the issue, track the entire action management process, implement required changes, and ensure that the issue is resolved quickly and effectively. Good action managers have the self discipline to slow down when things seem to get crazy because rushing around usually results in poor performance. Poor managers actually speed up and they get less properly completed.
Have a passion for building relationships with teams by how you prioritize your activities and don’t let frivolous interruptions invade the processes. Poor managers cannot build great teams because they are constantly allowing interruptions to dictate their daily actions. You should set priorities that help achieve beneficial goals. Poor action is allowing whatever is happening at the moment to become top priority. Almost anything can grab your attention. Become an action manager rather than just a time manager. Work on one thing at a time, slow things down, build solid and trusting relationships, and set strong priorities. Know how you will behave in varying situations and what motivates you to act, identify the talent in you, and learn how to better communicate and make life much more enjoyable. Your life must focus on the maximization of objectivity. Wide diversification is only required when you do not understand what you are doing. It’s often said that the more things change, the more they stay the same. Sir John Templeton’s famous take on this was “‘This time it’s different’ are the four most expensive words in the investing language”. We work really hard never to get confused with what we know from what we think or hope or wish.
It is a mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly one begins to twist facts to suit theories, instead of theories to suit facts. Invest in yourself. Your career is the engine of your wealth. Markets can remain irrational longer than you can remain solvent. When an investor focuses on short-term investments, he or she is observing the variability of the portfolio, not the returns – in short, being fooled by randomness.
Investment should start with a view of skepticism. You should become intellectual investor rather than emotional investor. You should be careful, and you should be skeptical. It’s one of the most important things at the end of the day, being able to say no to an investment. Value investing is risk aversion. You must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool. All intelligent investing is value investing — acquiring more that you are paying for. It is impossible to begin to learn that which one thinks one already knows.
We can attain balance and live the life we want to live by changing how we think. We should achieve balance between mind and emotions. We all have to change habits and behaviors that we no longer need in life. Our minds should become less matter and more energy. Fewer emotions we have, the higher our energy vibrates and the more open we are to possibility. There is always a danger living in “survival mode,” when everything in our external world dictates our inner world and we are stuck in the relentless cycle of cause and effect.
We can change our reality and achieve balance in our lives by changing the way we think. If we are mentally signaling our genes by repetitive, habitual thinking, we keep creating the same events, which produce the same outcomes. We can learn to signal our genes in new ways by thinking new thoughts. The more we practice it, the more balanced we become. We will open the door to possibility and to the life we want to create, and eventually we will engage in new and better behavior without even trying.
Using brain-mapping and neuro-feedback tools, it is demonstrated how meditation has a direct impact on our well-being. Using EEG, we can map brain function and get information on brain activity in real time. There are different levels of brain-wave states:
Beta: Heightened state of alertness and focused concentration.
Alpha: Relaxed mental state of awareness typically associated with contemplation, visualization, problem solving, and accessing deeper levels of creativity.
Theta: Slower frequency, representing a state of deep relaxation, enhanced creativity, stress relief, light sleep, and dreaming; most often used in meditation.
Delta: The slowest frequency, representing a state of deep, dreamless sleep. Delta brain-wave states have long been associated with healing.
Gamma: The most rapid in frequency, occurring at moments of bursts of insight or high-level information processing.
It is not just about our brains, our hearts too have patterns throughout different times of the day, as well as in the meditative state and during sleep and exercise. The Earth’s magnetic energy system vibrates at the same frequency as our hearts (1 megahertz) when we are in coherence or balance. When brain-wave functions, heart wave function too, and our energy centers vibrates at the same coherent frequency, and our bodies are in balance.
Using Kirlian photography and Gas Discharge Visualization, we can scan our fingertips; the termination point of all 12 primary acupuncture meridians and capture, analyze, and chart the results, to create images that match our chakras.
We can also make our own mind movies or a high-tech vision board, where we can visualize our potential future we want to create. The more we watch our mind movie or vision board, the more we are living it—creating new thinking, new emotions, and consequently signaling new genes in new ways. The more we signal those new genes, the stronger will our connection to the images becomes as we recreate our intention; balance.
The most fascinating thing is we can change our mind through thought alone! It is pretty good stuff, and it’s painless. Live a life of balance. Achieve the life you want by changing your habitual thinking.
Hypertension is a major risk factor for stroke, myocardial infarction, vascular disease, and chronic kidney disease. Prehypertension, significantly increases stroke risk. It is reported that, after adjustment for multiple cardiovascular risk factors, pre-hypertension which is blood pressure range 120 to 139/80 to 89 millimeter of Mercury is associated with increased risk for stroke, compared with an optimal blood pressure. Patients in the high range of pre-hypertension, that is to say, 130 to 139/85 to 89 millimeter of Mercury have 95% increased risk of stroke, compared with 44% increased risk for those in the low range of prehypertension, which is 120 to 129/80 to 84 millimeter of Mercury.
Hypertension is defined as a systolic blood pressure of 140 millimeter of Mercury or more, or a diastolic blood pressure of 90 millimeter of Mercury or more, or taking antihypertensive medication. Based on recommendations of the Seventh Report of the Joint National Committee on Prevention, Detection, Evaluation, and Treatment of High Blood Pressure, the classification of blood pressure for adults aged 18 years or older has been as follows: Normal blood pressure with systolic lower than 120 millimeter of Mercury and diastolic lower than 80 millimeter of Mercury. The Pre-Hypertensive patients are those who are with systolic of 120 to 139 millimeter of Mercury and diastolic of 80 to 89 millimeter of Mercury. Stage 1 hypertensive patients have the systolics ranging 140 to 159 millimeter of Mercury and diastolic anywhere between 90 to 99 millimeter of Mercury. Stage 2 hypertension is diagnosed when systolics are consistently in the 160 or greater range and diastolic of 100 millimeter of Mercury or greater.
Hypertension may be primary, which may develop as a result of environmental or genetic causes, or secondary, which has multiple etiologies, including renal, vascular, and endocrine causes. Primary or essential hypertension accounts for 90-95% of adult cases, and secondary hypertension accounts for 2-10% of cases.
The evaluation of hypertension involves, accurately measuring the patient’s blood pressure, taking a focused medical history, performing a thorough physical examination, and obtaining results of routine laboratory studies. A 12-lead electrocardiogram should also be obtained. These measures help determine the presence of end-organ disease, possible causes of hypertension, cardiovascular risk factors, and as well gives baseline values for judging biochemical effects of therapy. Other studies may be obtained on the basis of clinical findings or in individuals with suspected secondary hypertension and/or evidence of target-organ disease, such as complete blood count, chest radiograph, uric acid, and urine microalbumin.
Guidelines from JNC, the American Diabetes Association and the American Heart Association/American Stroke Association recommend lifestyle modification as the first step in managing hypertension.
JNC’s recommendations to lower blood pressure and decrease cardiovascular disease risks include 2 or more lifestyle modifications are combined. Weight Loss leads to dropping of systolic blood pressure by 5-20 millimeter of Mercury per 10 kg. Limiting alcohol intake to no more than 30 mL of ethanol per day for men and 15 mL of ethanol per day for women helps the blood pressure to drop by 2-4 millimeter of Mercury. Reducing Sodium Intake to no more than 2.4 grams of sodium or 6 grams of sodium chloride leads to reduction of 2-8 millimeter of Mercury. Maintaining adequate Intake of Dietary Potassium, approximately 90 millimoles per day and adequate Dietary Calcium & Magnesium are some of the other lifestyle modifications advocated by JNC. Smoking cessation and reducing intake of Dietary Saturated Fat & Cholesterol is good for overall cardiovascular health. Engaging in Aerobic Exercise for at least 30 minutes daily for most days reduces the systolic blood pressure by 4-9 millimeter of Mercury.
The American Heart Association/American Stroke Association recommends a diet that is low in sodium, high in potassium along with consumption of fruits, vegetables, and low-fat dairy products to reduce blood pressure and lower the risk of stroke.
The 2013 European Society of Hypertension and the European Society of Cardiology guidelines recommend a low-sodium diet consisting of 5 to 6 grams per day as well as reducing body-mass index to 25 kg per meter square and waist circumference to less than 102 cm in men and 88 cm in women.
If lifestyle modifications are insufficient to achieve the goal blood pressure, there are several drug options for treating and managing hypertension. Thiazide diuretics are the preferred agents in the absence of compelling indications. Compelling indications may include high-risk conditions such as heart failure, ischemic heart disease, chronic kidney disease, and recurrent stroke, or those conditions commonly associated with hypertension, including diabetes and high coronary disease risk. Drug intolerability or contraindications may also be factors. Use of angiotensin-converting enzyme inhibitors, angiotensin receptor blockers, calcium channel blockers, and beta-blockers are all acceptable alternative agents in such compelling cases.
Love at the level of biology is all chemicals. The attraction process is strongly linked to physiological arousal that typically starts with increased heart rate and sweatiness. When you catch sight of your beloved, your heart starts racing because of an adrenaline rush.
The brain sends signals to the adrenal gland, which secretes hormones such as adrenaline, epinephrine and norepinephrine. They flow through the blood and cause the heart to beat faster and stronger. It is similar to a fast heartbeat while running on a treadmill. For people with serious heart problems, love could actually be dangerous because when the heart rate goes up, the heart uses more oxygen, which can be risky for a person with blood vessel blockages or who has had a prior heart attack. Good medicines such as beta blockers help curb the adrenaline response. The norepinephrine, a stress hormone that governs attention and responding actions, makes one feel weak in the knees. The brain imaging studies of people who said they were "madly in love" showed activity in the area of the brain that produces the neurotransmitter dopamine.
Dopamine and norepinephrine are closely related. Dopamine gives you focused attention, the craving, the euphoria, the energy and the motivation to win life’s greatest prize. This norepinephrine response seems to be more active in people who are in love. Serotonin system too plays a role. Data from an Italian study indicate that a drop in serotonin levels is associated with obsessive thinking. The stress hormone cortisol has also been shown to have implications for love. Those who are in love show an increase in stress hormones such as cortisol.
Three brain systems play vital role in romantic love: sex drive, love and attachment. The sex drive evolved to get you to look for a lot of partners, the "love" portion is for focusing mating energy on one specific person at a time, and attachment is for allowing you to tolerate the partner — at least, long enough to have children with him or her. These systems are often connected, but can function separately. You can start out with one of them — casual sex, or an intense feeling of love, or an emotional connection — and move on to the others. For example, what may start out as a one-night stand may feel like more because the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin, released during orgasm, make you feel deeply attached to someone. You may feel in love after that, or instead feel somehow responsible for the person, because of these hormones.
The romantic love doesn’t have to die. The activity level in the brains of people who are in love after 20 years of marriage is same as in people who had just fallen in love. This brain area makes dopamine and sends it to other areas. In the days of early humans, in hunting-and-gathering societies, these qualities were especially advantageous for finding a person to bear and raise children.
Love also has health benefits for people who have aged beyond their reproductive years. Being in love makes people feel optimistic, energetic, focused and motivated, which were all positive for health and societal contribution in the early days of humans. So, it makes sense evolutionarily that people can still fall in love after their childbearing period.
Romance is good for health. Studies have shown that people who have frequent sex are generally healthier, with a longer life, fewer coronary events and lower blood pressure. A 1995 study in the journal Demography found that marriage adds seven years to a man’s life and two years to a woman’s.
It is hypothesized that people for whom the love is still new will respond to the stress and recover from it quicker than those who have recently been in a breakup or have been in a relationship for a long time. The guess is that when individuals are falling in love, they are walking around with rose-colored glasses.
Since lightning is electricity, how hot can a lightning bolt be?
Hotter than you probably think, says Brent McRoberts of Texas A&M University. "Scientists have done numerous experiments on this very subject," McRoberts explains, "and the air around a lightning bolt can reach as high as 54,000 degrees. That is over five times hotter than the surface of the sun. That is why when the air gets that hot, it expands faster than the speed of sound, and the compressed air around it sends out a quick shock wave — and that is thunder. Since one bolt is really several bolts strung together, there are several of these shock waves one right after another, each at a different altitude. That is why thunder often seems to rumble. One bolt can contain millions of volts of electricity, McRoberts adds, "That’s why lightning can be such a killer — it is extremely powerful. About 100 U.S. residents are killed by lightning each year, and remember that worldwide, there are more than 1,000 thunderstorms at any given moment, causing 6,000 lightning strikes per minute. It has been estimated that the Empire State Building in New York City is struck by lightning an average of 25 times each year.”
This is a photograph taken from the teenager (shirtless guy) named Austin Schafer’s Twitter account, of a kid being tied up and beaten by upper classmen at Columbia High School in Nampa, Idaho.