Real, Connected and Vulnerable
Marriage is for life. Man and woman joined in wedding are the fortunate one working together in God’s resolve that life should go on. God joins both the life-giving and love-giving aspects of man and woman’s sexuality into one reality in marriage. What God has joined man must not divide, therefore love and life in matrimony must not be alienated. The two have been brought together as one gift by God.
God is love and love’s greatest expression is in the child born of a virtuous, whole family. Family is the base of civilization. Broken families have really no good taste, etiquette, or education and are violent. The family unit is the origin of humanity itself. The Holy Trinity is woman, man, and baby. We as a society, of any race, need to rebuild the community and indeed heal the world as a whole by rebuilding the family unit, giving our children, mothers and fathers who stay together in dedicated, genuine relationships.
Now it is acceptable and even preferred by some to be the "side chick", "side piece" or tolerate "open relationships", promiscuity, and noncommittal sexual unions. This destroys human divinity and is not in God’s vision of whole and supreme love. Children are broken when their parenthood is broken.
It is a prayer that we be wise and desire wholeness for ourselves and our progeny. Woman’s highest blessing is to love and live justly. Her greatest role is The Great Mother. She desires to manifest love in the world in all forms, not merely romantic, sexual love, as is commonly and erroneously believed. Woman creates romantic love to open the way for real, connected, vulnerable intimacy.
Breathe in the mountain air and gaze out over expansive grounds glistening and dewy from the sunrise. Observe silence during breakfast hours. How one can manage with our friends together without talking and laughing … impossible! We might not make it through the next 15 minutes. We work around noise all day. Isn’t silence what we want? Why do we always have to talk anyway?
Hold the food on tongue a bit longer and notice the flavors in a refreshing way. During this time don’t converse, read or watch TV. You can feel the textures and the tastes fill the taste buds. Silence overflows from body, mind and soul as if it were always there; as if it was always your way of being. Just notice the view of the sky, mountains and valleys, our own mind-chatter and to-do lists rest blissfully now. Pure silence while eating with friends feels amazing. Many feel discomfort in silence, especially when with friends.
I wonder what we are all always chatting about! What level of our most authentic selves is being covered up because we so rarely sit together in silence? What levels of anxiety are we frequently releasing and soothing, back and forth, among one another? Which silly jokes can go left unsaid here and there to let in a little more truth in silence?
By sitting in silence, alone or with others, we give the brain a rest and allow our deepest selves to just be. We move and behave differently in the world when we are coming from a place of simply being. We are scared of the feelings that come up in silence. We feel uncomfortable in our insecurities and our fears. We live in a society filled with distractions to choose from. Happy thoughts fill us in silence. Sadness, nervousness and fear also fill us in silence. When we sit as conscious observers of our own feelings, we are allowing our whole selves to just be, without judgment. We are awake and peaceful. Tranquility fills us in silence. Enter the silence of your deepest self and truest self will ease into you.
To feel wholeness and connectedness from silence, choose one meal a day that you will eat in complete silence, without any distractions. Allow thoughts, to-do lists and feelings to pass by like logs floating away, down a river. Simply observe what comes up and allow it to pass on by. Plan to walk in silence from one point to another, and then back again. Observe any uncomfortable feelings that emerge, and observe how you feel once you have eased into your own silence.
When something really exciting or positive happens in life or work, stay in that place of blissful silence before telling others about it. Stay with the feelings you have about this positive occurrence. Bring your happy energy into your day, knowing you will tell the good news once you are ready. Observe when you are eating, shopping, watching TV or engaging in other behaviors for the purpose of distraction. Be the compassionate mother to yourself, and allow all of your feelings to be without judgment.