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Come Alive in Silence

Breathe in the mountain air and gaze out over expansive grounds glistening and dewy from the sunrise. Observe silence during breakfast hours. How one can manage with our friends together without talking and laughing … impossible! We might not make it through the next 15 minutes. We work around noise all day. Isn’t silence what we want? Why do we always have to talk anyway?

Hold the food on tongue a bit longer and notice the flavors in a refreshing way. During this time don’t converse, read or watch TV. You can feel the textures and the tastes fill the taste buds. Silence overflows from body, mind and soul as if it were always there; as if it was always your way of being. Just notice the view of the sky, mountains and valleys, our own mind-chatter and to-do lists rest blissfully now. Pure silence while eating with friends feels amazing. Many feel discomfort in silence, especially when with friends.

I wonder what we are all always chatting about! What level of our most authentic selves is being covered up because we so rarely sit together in silence? What levels of anxiety are we frequently releasing and soothing, back and forth, among one another? Which silly jokes can go left unsaid here and there to let in a little more truth in silence?

By sitting in silence, alone or with others, we give the brain a rest and allow our deepest selves to just be. We move and behave differently in the world when we are coming from a place of simply being. We are scared of the feelings that come up in silence. We feel uncomfortable in our insecurities and our fears. We live in a society filled with distractions to choose from. Happy thoughts fill us in silence. Sadness, nervousness and fear also fill us in silence. When we sit as conscious observers of our own feelings, we are allowing our whole selves to just be, without judgment. We are awake and peaceful. Tranquility fills us in silence. Enter the silence of your deepest self and truest self will ease into you.

To feel wholeness and connectedness from silence, choose one meal a day that you will eat in complete silence, without any distractions. Allow thoughts, to-do lists and feelings to pass by like logs floating away, down a river. Simply observe what comes up and allow it to pass on by. Plan to walk in silence from one point to another, and then back again. Observe any uncomfortable feelings that emerge, and observe how you feel once you have eased into your own silence.

When something really exciting or positive happens in life or work, stay in that place of blissful silence before telling others about it. Stay with the feelings you have about this positive occurrence. Bring your happy energy into your day, knowing you will tell the good news once you are ready. Observe when you are eating, shopping, watching TV or engaging in other behaviors for the purpose of distraction. Be the compassionate mother to yourself, and allow all of your feelings to be without judgment.


Posted August 29, 2013 by dranilj1 in Life Lessons

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Controversial Topics Makes People Feel Uncomfortable

The internet provides an easy way of seeing what topics provoke the most conversations. All you need to do is scroll down to the bottom of an article and see how many people are  slugging it out in the comments section.

When topics are either very high or very low in controversy, on average there are fewer comments posted. For sparking controversy, the sweet spot is in the middle.  We expect the most controversial articles to stir up the most chat, but apparently this is not the case.  Controversy makes people uncomfortable.

Investigating further, it is found that the most controversial topics are most interesting, but are also more uncomfortable to talk about, so we tend to avoid it.  However, it depends how anonymous one feels. When people talked anonymously online, they could bear more controversy than if they knew the person they were talking to.  So, our intuition that controversial subjects provoke discussion is tempered by the fact that people find it uncomfortable discussing them.

Whether you want people to talk about your website, product or business, or just talk to you, it seems that the sweet spot for controversy is right there in the middle.  Add a dash of controversy to heat up the debate, but not so much that people clam up.

Love of the Moment

We are not promised tomorrow. Life is about being in the moment and appreciating today, since we don’t know if there will be another. Don’t delay your life today. Be right here, right now. Growing up, my amazing mother and stern daddy taught me to maintain a strong, respectful, and genuine love for God and each other. Families inspire life’s essential connections and support systems.

Once a task is begun, never leave it until it’s done, be your labor great or small, do it well or not at all. I set my mind to always do the very best I can. No matter what the circumstances are, just do your best to persevere until you reach your goal or accomplish tasks. Believe in your mission, see the light at the end of the tunnel, and do it as positively as possible as you see it to completion. Inspire yourself to get it done and you will be inspired to complete more!

My love, faith, and hope in people are means of my source of inspiration. When pushed down by the strains of life, I understand the need to love others as we love ourselves and to treat others as we want to be treated. These are the golden rules of inspiration. Inspire others by believing in them. Show them you care in a genuine way.

If you are not humble, you crumble. Know that you can’t please all, but your inner spark will ignite many to your fire of compassion, understanding, and efforts to connect and accept. Look to the children to inspire you to be in the moment, not take yourself too seriously, and to rejoice in the true spirit of life and love. Look at their innocence that we cherish, but often lose. Look to their pure joy and laughter to help set the tone for your day. Follow their lead by living in each and every moment. Look to the hope of life through inquisitive eyes that mirror the soul and melt you into the love of the moment.

Divine Love


The world exists because love still exists on earth. If this one divine quality left the world, then there could be no existence on earth. Let us love the root of the tree. Then we shall see that the branches, the leaves and the foliage of the tree also feel our love.

Love is the secret key that allows a human being to open the door of God. Where there is love; pure, divine love, there is fulfillment. What is love? If love means possessing someone or something, then that is not real love that is not pure love. If love means giving and becoming one with everything, with humanity and divinity, then that is real love.

Where there is oneness, it is all pure love. At every moment, we have to be very careful whether it is human love or divine love that has entered into us or operating in and through us. If we give someone something and expect something in return because we feel that the person is under obligation to give us something back, this is human love. But if we can do something unconditionally, that is divine love. In divine love, we give for the sake of giving, and we feel it is up to the other person whether to give something back or not. This is unconditional love, this is divine love. Divine love makes no demand. It is spontaneous and constant. It is unlimited in every way. It is like the sun. The sun is for everybody. Everybody can use sunlight, but if we keep our doors and windows shut, what can the sun do?

Divine love at every moment illumines us, and in illumination we see total fulfillment. In divine love there is no possession; only a feeling of oneness. This oneness can enter into an animal, flower, tree, or even a wall. When we have divine love for someone, at that time there is automatically inseparable oneness. No bridge is required, we just become one.

Absolute Love

The greatest influence known to man is absolute love. Through the ages, mystics, sages, singers and poets have all expressed the ballad and call to love. As humans, we have searched endlessly for the experience of love through the outer senses. Great nations have come and gone under the guise of love for their people. Religions have flourished and perished while claiming the true path to love. We, the people of this planet, may have missed the simplicity of absolute love.

Simply stated, absolute love is an unlimited way of being. We are without any limit to our thoughts and feelings in life and can create any reality we choose to focus our attention upon. There are infinite imaginative possibilities when we allow the freedom to go beyond our perceived limits. If we can dream it, we can build it. Life, through absolute love, is a wondrous adventure that excites the very core of our being and lights our path with delight.

Unconditional love is a dynamic and powerful energy that lifts us through the most difficult times. It is available at any moment by turning our attention to it and using its wonderful potential to free us from our limitations. It requires practice and intent to allow this energy to fully permeate our daily experience. It begins with ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be. In loving ourselves, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us. That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure. If you have not thought about how you feel towards yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally, or spiritually; begin the journey that changes everything. Begin the journey of absolute love.

Be Happy About Living

How many of us, dream of being happily taken someday? Oops, I think I see most of your hands in the air! Unless you’re not eyeing marriage, you probably longed for that one girl who is willing to stay by your side no matter how annoyingly cute you get. Take it or leave it – we all have secret fantasies of being swooned over head over heels by the angel of our dreams, living happily ever after forevermore.

We have our own arsenal of techniques, strategies, game plans in hooking up with Miss Perfect. We’ve tried good old flirting, ranging from mild to ultra-hot, but we wonder why girls don’t take the bait. We’ve tried straightforward approaches, which makes girls either scramble toward us, or run away from us. We’ve tried taking things into our own hands, and women shake their head in despair. What will make women take us seriously?

Yes, it may be true that social status, professional acclaims and financial health attracts women at the onset of most encounters. But what makes them linger? What makes them think about getting to know men deeper, and not just as bed-warmers? It is the inside appearance that matters – that means, the happiness, confidence, and inner peace we exude. How did I come to know of these things? I am speaking from personal experiences.

I realized that when my desire for romance took the forefront of my life, to the detriment of other aspects of myself, it was then that opportunities for real love eluded me all the more, and I would attract gals who are somehow similar to me – rich, lonely, and with swagger attitude. I was crushed many times over by heartbreaks that I unknowingly allowed. Somehow, my hope as a hopeless romantic sailed me through these hard times, and I was back on my feet in no time, ready to jump at my chance for everlasting happiness. Or so I thought, because I have anchored my happiness yet again to the presence of romance in my life. That is not only unattractive to women who may be considered of the good kind, but this arrogant attitude attracts needy women, which is not helpful at all in building a healthy kind of love, only a false sense of security.

Somewhere along the way, I realized that it was not my fashion sense, nor my swagger attitude, nor my money that somehow prevented me to attract the good gals: it was the mindset. When I let go of romance as a super priority in my life, because I was happy nevertheless whether I had a girlfriend or not, that was attractive to good women. Happiness, true and sincere, is the greatest pheromone that will help you snag a great Girl. When good girl look at you and see you oh-so-happy, busying yourself with worthwhile things, and not moping around the lack of someone special, they will hover over you like butterflies and bees to a rose plant. The good thing is, the gals you attract are no longer the sad and bitter ones; they are the happy, peaceful gals as well, who exude a lot of confidence on what they have to offer. They are happy to get to know you, because at the back of their minds they know that they can make you happy. Their ‘job’ is halfway done; you’re happy all by yourself to begin with! What a great deal you’re getting yourself if you simply choose to be happy about life!

Simply put, being happy about life led me to my first and last love and romance. Dear men, I hope I have inspired you enough to simply be happy about living!


Posted February 20, 2013 by dranilj1 in Love

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2012 in Review

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

4,329 films were submitted to the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This blog had 27,000 views in 2012. If each view were a film, this blog would power 6 Film Festivals

Click here to see the complete report.


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