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If Not Now, When!

Have you started to think about what changes you would like to make in this moment? Who do you really want to be? It’s your time; will you take it higher? Stop judging and start committing. Where you are currently is just a result of all you have thought and done in the past. If you want a different future, simply commit to life-enhancing changes. If you hate where you are and thinking only about what you don’t like, you are giving life exactly what you want to let go of. Bring love in and think about exactly what it is you do want.

When you are thinking about the changes you want to make in your life: ask what you want? Why do you want it? Are you willing to commit to what you want? Can you do it? Will you do it? Do you act out of love? How will your life be different afterwards? How will you be different afterwards?

Take whatever steps you can take every day and know that whatever you can do is enough, but important is do what you can do. Show the powerful intention to make the changes you would like to see. If you intend and expect the best for your future, it is a universal law that that is exactly what you will see. Make the process of creating and living a life you love, in a body you love, a loving promise you make to yourself, and let this be the moment, because if not now, when?

Every human being possesses a creative capacity. Pure energy is emanating from the source of the universe, and each of us receives a steady supply of this energy. How we use it from moment to moment determines our own future and the future of the world. This universal energy has infinite potential. Each of us assigns a shape to that energy by means of our thoughts and words. This is the process of creation.


Posted October 28, 2013 by dranilj1 in Life Lessons

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Set Free the Power of Passion

To achieve great things, you need strong feelings. What drives high-achievers? The answer is passion. Why are feelings such a commanding motivator? An intense strong feeling is the last thing you think about before you go to bed at night and the first thing you think about when you wake up. Intense strong feeling is like an addiction, and if someone told you to stop, it would be unworkable for you to give it up. Those who have been fortunate enough to know and chase their passions don’t mind if they are getting paid to do it or not. It is a part of the purpose, the calling in life, and without it, a bit is lost.

Fervor stimulates will. Ardor turns have-to into want-to. If I want something badly enough I will find the resolve to attain it, and won’t stop attempting until I reach it. Zeal is the essence of dedication. Enthusiasm is what deeply stirs us. Passion is the fire from within that motivates us. When fervor is missing, actions lack meaning and we don’t get the results we desire. Passion is the seed from which devotion blossoms.

However, following our passion is not simple or easy as it sounds. Those once-in-a-lifetime moments where what someone loves to do fall right into lap is infrequent. For most people, making time in their lives to do what they love takes patience, hard work, and persistence. It also depends on what you are passionate about. Some are lucky enough to have passions that fit nicely into a business model or into the business world, so if they work hard enough, are patient enough, and are persistent enough, they can turn their passion into a realistic career. Unfortunately, that is not the case for everyone. But that doesn’t mean you have to forego pursuing your passion.

Work is only one component of our lives or it should be. You need to make the commitment to find time and opportunities to get out and do things you feel intensely. In our overscheduled world, it is tough to carve out time to do things we truly love, but no one who seriously talks about pursuing their passion ever says it is easy. They do, however, unequivocally say that it is worth the effort.

It is vital to keep in mind that passion requires energy to grow and one of the best ways to get that energy is to share it with others. Just like a plant needs water, passion needs to be nurtured every day in order for it to grow to the point where it becomes understandable to the rest of the world. There is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one we are capable of living.

What a feeling, first when there is nothing but a slow glowing dream that your fear seems to hide deep inside your mind. All alone, crying silent tears full of pride in a world made of steel, made of stone. Well, I hear the music, close my eyes, feel the rhythm, wrap around, and take a hold of my heart. What a feeling is being and believing. I can have it all, now I am dancing for my life. Take my passion and make it happen. Now pictures come alive, I can dance right through my life. Now I hear the music, close my eyes, I am rhythm. In a flash it takes hold of my heart. Now I really have it all.


Happiness is a slippery concept. Sometimes it seems to us like mythical, wonderful, but probably unobtainable, but happiness is more than obtainable. It is the natural result of building up our well-being and satisfaction with life. The building blocks of well-being constitute positive emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning and accomplishment. Each of these elements is essential to our well-being and satisfaction with life. Together, they form the solid foundation upon which we can build a happy and flourishing life.

When someone asks you whether you are satisfied with your life, your answer depends heavily on the mood you are in. When you are feeling positive, you can look back on the past with gladness; look into the future with hope; and enjoy and cherish the present. Positive emotions have an impact that goes far beyond bringing a smile to our faces. Feeling good helps us to perform better at work and study, it boosts our physical health, it strengthens our relationships, and it inspires us to be creative, take chances, and look to the future with optimism and hope. Feeling good is contagious. Seeing smiles makes us want to smile. Hearing laughter makes us feel like laughing and when we share our good feelings with others, they appreciate and enjoy our company. We have all experienced highs and lows in life, but we are doing ourselves harm when we dwell on the lows. If we look back on the past with pain and regret, we will become depressed. If we think of the future and worry about danger and risk, we become anxious and pessimistic. So it is incredibly important to recognize the positive emotions we feel, so that we are able to enjoy the present without worry and regret.

Spending time with friends and family, engaging in hobbies, exercising, getting out in nature, or eating great food makes us feel good. We need to make sure there is always room in our lives for these things. Cultivating positive emotions makes it easier to experience them naturally. Many of us have an automatic tendency to expect the worst, see the downside, and avoid taking risks. If we learn to cultivate positive feelings about life, we begin to hope for the best, see the upside, and learn to take great opportunities when they come along.

We don’t thrive when we are doing nothing. We get bored and feel useless, but when we engage with our life and work, we become absorbed. We gain momentum and focus, and we can enter the state of being known as ‘flow’. Flow is a state of utter, blissful immersion in the present moment. When you are lying in bed, it is often hard to convince yourself to throw off the covers and plant your feet on the ground. You worry about the cold. You feel tired and sluggish. You lie in bed, thinking but not getting anywhere, but when you are running, you don’t question anything. You are flying through space; one foot goes in front of the other, and again, and again, because it must. You are absorbed entirely in the present moment.

Not everyone enjoys running, but perhaps you feel this way when you are playing music, painting, dancing or cooking. If you have a job you love, you probably feel this way at work. We are most likely to fulfill our own unique potential when we are engaged in activities that absorb and inspire us. When we identify our own greatest strengths, we can consciously engage in work and activities that make us feel most confident, productive and valuable. We can also learn skills for cultivating joy and focus on the present. Mindfulness is a valuable skill. Using mindfulness, you can learn to develop clear awareness of the present, both physically and mentally.

Humans are social animals. We have a need for connection, love, physical and emotional contact with others. We enhance our own well-being by building strong networks of relationships around us, with family, friends, coworkers, neighbors and all the other people in our lives. A problem shared is a problem halved. Happiness shared is happiness squared. When we share our joy with those we love, we feel even more joy, and when we love, we become more loveable.

We depend on the people around us to help us maintain balance in our lives. When we are alone, we lose perspective on the world, and we forget that others may be bearing greater burdens than our own, but when we let other people into our lives, we remember to give as well as take. When you belong to a community, you have a network of support around you, and you are part of it.

It is important to build and maintain relationships with the people in your life, but it is equally important to recognize the difference between a healthy relationship and a damaging one. Some relationships are dangerous because they are one-sided or co-dependent. Other relationships struggle because people take each other for granted, don’t make time for each other, or can’t seem to communicate. The key to relationships is balance. It is not enough to surround ourselves with friends; we must also listen and share, make an effort to maintain our connections, and work to make those connections strong.

We are at our best when we dedicate our time to something greater than ourselves. This could be religious faith, community work, family, a political cause, charity, professional or creative goal. People who belong to a community and pursue shared goals are happier than people who don’t. It is also very important to feel that the work we do is consistent with our personal values and beliefs. From day to day, if we believe our work is worthwhile, we feel a general sense of well-being and confidence that we are using our time and our abilities for good.

It might be family, or learning, or our faith we value most in this world. Perhaps, you feel strongly about helping disadvantaged children, or protecting the environment. Once you have identified what matters most to you, find some like-minded people and begin working together for the things you care about. You can find meaning in your professional life as well as your personal one. If you see a deeper mission in the work you do, you are better placed to apply your talents and strengths in the service of this mission.

We have all been taught that winning isn’t everything. We should strive for success, but it’s more important to enjoy the game. However, people need to win sometimes. What use are goals and ambitions if we never reach them? For well-being and happiness, we must look back on our lives with a sense of accomplishment like, ‘I did it, and I did it well’. Creating and working toward goals helps us anticipate and build hope for the future. Past successes make us feel more confident and optimistic about future attempts. There is nothing bad or selfish about being proud of your accomplishments. When you feel good about yourself, you are more likely to share your skills and secrets with others. You will be motivated to work harder and achieve more next time. You inspire people around you to achieve their own goals.

It is important to set tangible goals, and keep them in sight. Identify your ambitions and cultivate the strengths you need in order to reach them. It is a great way to keep focused on your long-term goals and acknowledge the little successes along with the big ones. It is vital to cultivate resilience against failure and setbacks. Success doesn’t always come easy, but if we stay positive and focused, we don’t give up when adversity strikes.

All Credits goes to Martin Seligman.




Writing is an expression of art, the human creativity, and the wondrousness of life; a perfect unfolding of a life worth living. Let go of the pattern of trying very hard and doing things with exertion because we don’t have to. The cosmos will help us make our desires a reality. All we need to do is to take triggering off action. Action must not be an effort. Take baby steps to get your wants. It’s a common belief that one has to do a lot to make our desires a reality, while inspired action is all that is needed. Inspired action is a sudden urge, feeling in gut, head, or chest that we must do something. The cosmos gives signals on what needs to be done to make our desires a reality. Basically, inspired action feels good and appears as if action occurred through you. When we follow gut feelings, we make things happen; meaning, we make our desires a reality.

Practical living and harmony with three levels of consciousness, simple method for easing emotional pain, and discovering your natural ability to let go of any painful or useless feeling, belief or thought in the moment are ways to fine-tune subliminal thought progressions. It is a different concept of taking action. It feels like we have to give so much just to experience something we desire; which in reality, rightfully ours from the moment we asked for it. Trying really hard to take action will only stress us out every time and if left without any healing, stress will add and finally is evident as disease. Additional nuisance is we lose everything we have worked really hard for, we will feel depressed because it took a lot of time and effort to get to where we are and now we have to do all that again. We need to learn to take note of our inner voice whenever we feel the urge to take inspired action.

Working hard and feeling awful is not the answer to happy life. We have to visualize and affirm mental action. We must give our undivided attention and focus. We have to put everything we have, to make our desires a reality. It’s not just sitting down and waiting, we have to shift energy and direct energy to take inspired action, which feels really good. To begin, it is confusing and we will have black and white thinking. Practice and belief enables one to see shades of gray. We must be trained to feel good while taking action and force ourselves to take action initially. That’s the key word; initially. Forcing action doesn’t have to be forever; since, like any skill when practiced and mastered for a long period of time will grow to be involuntary. To begin anything, it takes some hard work and discipline as we will be practicing a new way of thinking, feeling, and behaving, but the payoff is for the rest of life; the ability to take inspired action whenever we want to. Look for cosmic signals, and just do things when you want to do. Work first on emotions before taking any action. Think about feeling good and disciplined if stuck through task till the end. Think of good you feel when the task is finished. Think of the feelings of achievement that flows through body.

Use willpower to conquer emotions. This gives huge power when we take action, as one has the ability to shift perspective when things get tedious and less gratifying. Having the ability to think of the rewards and the good feelings we get, when we finish a task enables us to be productive. We will achieve more and feel passionate in the process. Isn’t that crucial for life? Willpower fades away quickly, yet you need to stay focused and motivated. Subconscious is the source of all thoughts, emotions, and actions. Before one even consciously thinks about something, the subconscious mind has already thought about it and is making us aware of that thought. Be positive and confident about your abilities. Use hypnosis, subliminal suggestions or whatever resonates with and works for you. It will take consistent practice to become an expert. Allow it to ooze into subconscious and become a permanent part of life. Allow it to be cemented into mind.

Living a Life with No Regrets

I know I know nothing; it allows me to feel convinced to learn from those who really know! A life of purpose cannot be defined by a particular achievement. Each person has a unique blend of gifts and abilities that make up their giving to the world. I decidedly support reaching for the stars. Leaving a legacy and living a life with no regrets is more about acceptance of the lessons life teaches. It is about having the wisdom to grow, learn, expand and change when needed.

A legacy is what you leave behind for the world to remember. It can be the sway you had on a friend or the job you executed as a parent. It can be a charitable giving or the brunt you made on the business world. Large or small, we are all leaving a legacy. Living a life with no regrets involves defining what you want that legacy to be. Don’t let someone else make a decision. Only you know what type of life you want to lead. It is never too late to leave a mark, even if it is as simple as a smile or a kind word for those around you. Many times we underrate the impact of a small gesture. Kind expressions, no matter how seemingly irrelevant, may be the thing that people keep in mind about you after your time has passed.

Living a life free of regrets involves letting go. It involves letting go of the would-have, should-have, could-have mentality. Dwelling on how you could have lived differently is damaging to your spirit. Sometimes we do the best we can with the knowledge we have at the time. Frequently, the wrong choices bring us to the right places. Make the choice now to forgive yourself, as the world needs the best of you. You cannot give your best when you dwell on past hurts or perceived mistakes.

Another part of leaving a legacy is when you live a full life that you love and which you are sharing with others you leave a legacy. Ask yourself what have I enjoyed most in my life so far? What am I passionate about? What would I like to be remembered for? Questions like these can be powerful in defining your goals and moving you into a life that you are proud to live.

To live a life with no regrets, leave behind a legacy for your family and the world by simply enjoying your life daily. Forgive yourself and others, follow your own path, look for happiness in the little things, and find something you enjoy that allows you to share and give back. Be kind and gracious to those you meet and embrace the joyful life you were meant to live. Man is only truly great when he acts from his passions.

Live out your passions and rest assured that you can live this life with no regrets.

Expect Happiness and You Will Be Happy


The personal power and courage to have the best life possible are nicely wrapped up in our package called self. Unwrapping and using each tool is a constant source of growth. Our personal tool chests have lots of "gadgets" just perfect to help inspire us and capture our heart’s happiness.

We frequently use "gadgets" like love, acceptance, sharing, creativity, passion, humor, kindness, embracing change, and the ability to continue to learn as tools of choice for life’s jobs and journeys.

The most powerful key to our best life is to have an expectation of love and happiness. You usually perform as you expect to perform. You gain or lose what you expect to gain or lose. It’s like you have a self-programmed expectation of achievement, and then, do your best to live up or live down to it.

In our childhood what we were programmed to believe about our self? That we are handsome, pretty, smart, the best, a winner, someone who can do anything, troubled, a loser, never going to amount to anything, a poor student, an underachiever, an overachiever, a moron?

Majority of us start our lives without a good self-image. We don’t believe in ourselves at an early age and buy into criticisms of toxic people around us. We are young and impressionable. We believe the adults around us to be our protectors and our experts on life. If they are negative, we become negative. If they suffer from low self-esteem, we suffer from lower self-esteem, and the cycle begins.

Much of our thinking is set at a young age and very few of us question what’s best for us personally as adults. It’s very hard to shake our initial brainwashing of youth, and when one questions, it is thought of as defiance against those who "love" you rather than a growing-up experience.

Learning who you are and what your expectations are for yourself are the ultimate growing-up task of adulthood. If something is not working, this is the chance to fix it and live out your wishes or expectations.

Action always starts with some sort of expectation. You have to be ready to accept what is coming at you whether it is an opportunity, a learning experience, or just plain wonderful happiness. If you don’t expect it, chances are you won’t perceive or receive it. The best gift you can give yourself is a moment to rethink your patterns of behavior and personal expectations for your life.

Do it today and reap the rewards. Life is an adventure of reaping joy, happiness, and your ultimate best. Expect happiness and you will be happy.

Peace and Prosperity Implies Being Only Pelt along Enough

The image of the increasingly time-crunched American is wrong and being less rushed does not always mean being happier. Everybody knows that the pace of daily life is speeding up, accelerated by the proliferation of mobile phones, tablets, WiFi and other communication technologies and by fallout from the 2007 economic crisis. As if anyone needed reminding of this trend, book titles echoing the faster-paced theme include The Overworked American and Busy Bodies in the early 1990s through to Faster, Fighting for Time, and Busier Than Ever.

However, despite this broad consensus, and its obvious health and quality-of-life implications, there seems little empirical survey evidence that daily life is truly speeding up. Some 15 years ago, study was only able to locate three short measures of subjective time pressure in the public: “stress” questions developed by the US National Institutes of Health; a “time crunch” scale of 10 yes-no questions; and two questions included in the initial time-use national survey conducted by the University of Michigan in 1965. These questions first asked respondents: How often one felt rushed? How often one had time on hands, one didn’t know what to do with?

A 2009-10 surveys show decreases in Americans feeling “always” rushed particularly among the busiest group of those aged 18 to 64. This decrease in felt time pressure since 2004 may reflect the “Great American Slowdown,” headlined in the April 10, 2008 issue of the Economist, based strictly on the performance of the economy and not the public’s response to it. It seems mirrored as well in the Great Slowdown in geographic migration noted by demographer William Frey in 2010. In the same vein, three of the main changes noted in the annual reports of the Americans’ Time Use Survey since 2007 have been a decline in shopping time along with increase in sleep time and in free time, especially television viewing.

Both of these time-pressure questions have important implications for how Americans feel about the quality of their lives. The percent of Americans who say they are very happy remained a remarkably steady social indicator between 1972 to 2008 averaging about 33 percent; however, in the 2010 survey, it dropped 5 points to 28 percent, its lowest level since 1972; mirroring decline in other indicators of life quality as well.

The happiest people in 2009-10 reported themselves as less rushed and with no excess time. These higher levels are not due to both groups having higher income, being married, being older or other demographic predictors of happiness. More important was how the two questions work in combination. Almost 50 percent of respondents who feel least rushed and who also feel least excess time report being “very happy”, almost twice as high as the rest of the US public. It is an elite group, making up less than 10 percent of the population. They not only seem happier by ignoring the “rat race” and subscribing to a philosophy of “Don’t hurry, be happy,” but by organizing their lifestyles to minimize spells of boredom and lack of focus as well. Thus, there seems dysfunction in having either too much or too little free time. In a society that otherwise seems obsessed with speed and the latest information technology gadgets, this would seem to offer a path to a more contented lifestyle.


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