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Live with no excuses and love with no regrets…


Posted April 8, 2015 by dranilj1 in Landscape

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Why women want to cuddle after sex? After sex, women are high on endorphins and want to savor the buzz by feeling man’s body against hers. Women like to make eye contact and stay close after the deed is done. Women need the intimacy of post-coital connection. Women like to gaze into a man’s eyes. Post-sex affection has a big impact on sexual satisfaction and relationship with their partners.

The post-sex affection like kissing, caressing and love-talk have long-lasting effects like higher levels of satisfaction with sex lives and relationships. Post-sex affection promotes bonding and sexual satisfaction. Time spent cuddling after sex has a strong impact on relationship. Bonding time after sex is important for those who face challenges finding time for intimate connection.

Men and women enjoy sex and intimacy in different ways. There is lot of culture and socialization here. For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously guilty about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers. After sex, women need the reassurance that they, themselves, haven’t abandoned themselves to it for its pleasure.

Before you doze off, wrap your arms around her and let her feel your breath on her neck. Whisper something nice. As your breathing turns to snuffles, she will imagine you are breathing out her essential beauty. Let her think that way as you drift off to sleep.

It is ridiculous for women to claim that separating sex and intimacy is inherently degrading. It is also ridiculous for men to claim that a woman’s need for intimate connection during and after sex is a type of burdensome dependency need. Intimacy can enhance pleasure or detract from pleasure. Objectification can be a springboard to intense pleasure or an obstacle to pleasure. Drawing a line of demarcation about what is healthy or not when it comes to love and sex is dangerous and typically serves neurotic purposes. We should all just get over it.

Posted February 4, 2015 by dranilj1 in HEALTHY LIVING

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Why Love Disquiets Your Heart


Love at the level of biology is all chemicals.  The attraction process is strongly linked to physiological arousal that typically starts with increased heart rate and sweatiness.  When you catch sight of your beloved, your heart starts racing because of an adrenaline rush.

The brain sends signals to the adrenal gland, which secretes hormones such as adrenaline, epinephrine and norepinephrine. They flow through the blood and cause the heart to beat faster and stronger.  It is similar to a fast heartbeat while running on a treadmill.  For people with serious heart problems, love could actually be dangerous because when the heart rate goes up, the heart uses more oxygen, which can be risky for a person with blood vessel blockages or who has had a prior heart attack. Good medicines such as beta blockers help curb the adrenaline response.  The norepinephrine, a stress hormone that governs attention and responding actions, makes one feel weak in the knees.  The brain imaging studies of people who said they were “madly in love” showed activity in the area of the brain that produces the neurotransmitter dopamine.

Dopamine and norepinephrine are closely related. Dopamine gives you focused attention, the craving, the euphoria, the energy and the motivation to win life’s greatest prize.  This norepinephrine response seems to be more active in people who are in love.  Serotonin system too plays a role.  Data from an Italian study indicate that a drop in serotonin levels is associated with obsessive thinking.  The stress hormone cortisol has also been shown to have implications for love. Those who are in love show an increase in stress hormones such as cortisol.

Three brain systems play vital role in romantic love: sex drive, love and attachment. The sex drive evolved to get you to look for a lot of partners, the “love” portion is for focusing mating energy on one specific person at a time, and attachment is for allowing you to tolerate the partner — at least, long enough to have children with him or her.  These systems are often connected, but can function separately.  You can start out with one of them — casual sex, or an intense feeling of love, or an emotional connection — and move on to the others. For example, what may start out as a one-night stand may feel like more because the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin, released during orgasm, make you feel deeply attached to someone. You may feel in love after that, or instead feel somehow responsible for the person, because of these hormones.

The romantic love doesn’t have to die.  The activity level in the brains of people who are in love after 20 years of marriage is same as in people who had just fallen in love. This brain area makes dopamine and sends it to other areas. In the days of early humans, in hunting-and-gathering societies, these qualities were especially advantageous for finding a person to bear and raise children.

Love also has health benefits for people who have aged beyond their reproductive years. Being in love makes people feel optimistic, energetic, focused and motivated, which were all positive for health and societal contribution in the early days of humans. So, it makes sense evolutionarily that people can still fall in love after their childbearing period.

Romance is good for health. Studies have shown that people who have frequent sex are generally healthier, with a longer life, fewer coronary events and lower blood pressure. A 1995 study in the journal Demography found that marriage adds seven years to a man’s life and two years to a woman’s.

It is hypothesized that people for whom the love is still new will respond to the stress and recover from it quicker than those who have recently been in a breakup or have been in a relationship for a long time.  The guess is that when individuals are falling in love, they are walking around with rose-colored glasses.

Posted April 16, 2014 by dranilj1 in Love

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Delighted Earth

The Sun; hearth of affection and life, pours burning love on the delighted earth…

Posted April 29, 2013 by dranilj1 in Landscape

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Nurturing Relationships

Relationships, while they are beautiful and rewarding, are a lot of work. A good relationship must be balanced. Each partner must be willing to give and take in all areas and aspects of the relationship. Every relationship is different and there is no manual or how-to-guide to make things work out. Each relationship will have ups and downs and we learn valuable lessons along the way.

The relationship that prays together stays together. The closer each one of you comes to becoming like the person God intended you to be, the closer you will be to each other and to the Lord. Every disagreement or dispute doesn’t need to be a blow out or argument. Even though we are related, we are two separate individuals that have different personalities and understandings; which is fine and normal. There is no need to get overtly upset about disagreements because it is not the end of the world. It is healthy to voice your frustrations or opinions in a calm manner, but let it go afterwards. Every disagreement doesn’t have to involve an intense battle.

Certain phrase, word or just general mention may set a relationship into a fury. Take a step back and when having an argument or conversation try not to use those phrases or words because you don’t want relationship to feel like they’re being attacked.

The past is exactly that – the past. When communicating about controversial subjects, there is no need to bring up what has happened in the past. Moving on from a situation is a step towards overcoming obstacles and growing. We all can grow from our mistakes and the obstacles that we’ve faced; so continue to grow and do not dwell in issues that you have already overcome.

Always finish your arguments and disagreements on the day that they occur. It is much easier said than done; however, you never want to go to bed and carry on problems to another day. Why not use the following day as a brand new start? Make your best efforts and attempts to resolve issues before you go to sleep and make sure both parties have a clear understanding of all issues.

Holding grudges and staying upset can cause rift. There is no need to hold on to disagreements when a resolution can easily be derived. Strive to communicate and forgive both parties because everyone is going to make mistakes. Live, learn and forgive.

When you have an opinion about something or feel like you need to add your input about a situation – don’t stay quiet. You should always be able to tell other party how you feel and be honest about any subjects. If you keep your opinions bottled up inside, there is a strong possibility that you will begin to resent decisions and cause yourself a great deal of internal pain that could be avoided if you had spoken up.

The three simple words ‘I Love You’ can make all the difference and can move the dark clouds on a gloomy day. Keep your relationship fresh. Surprises don’t have to be an every day, weekly or monthly occurrence but never miss an opportunity to show that you love them. Send flowers or give an unexpected hug to keep the spice going.

Don’t get so complacent that you do not spend time doing some of the things that you did to get them in the first place. Ladies – take those rollers out of your hair and dress nice for your man! Men – be spontaneous and take your wife out on a date every once in a while.

Finding humor in some of the rough patches will hit, will eventually help smooth things out. Every misfortune doesn’t have to be dramatic. If you’re able to find humor during tough times, it can help you stay positive. Positivity is contagious and is a great thing to have and share with others to help lighten the mood.

Appreciating God’s words of wisdom together will help to develop a deeper appreciation for religion and God’s purpose. Take time to read scriptures together and be grateful for God because without his miracles you would not have your partner.

Nurturing a relationship can seem a bit confusing at first. It almost feels the same as nurturing your partner, but there is an important difference. If you look at your relationship as three entities gathered together—you, your partner and the relationship—it is easier to understand. Each one of these entities needs to be nurtured.

Being able to nurture the “us” part of your life can be a little complicated with kids, work, and life being as challenging as it is. Yet nurturing can become almost second nature because it feels so positive when it’s working. The idea here is that nurturing the one you love and the relationship that binds you should become a part of your normal behavior.

Though nurturing can be difficult to master, especially if you grew up in a family that wasn’t very nurturing, however it’s an easy thing to learn and quite pleasant when you finally get the hang of it. It all starts with a desire to be closer to the one you love. If you feel that way, the first step you need to take is to tell your partner that you want to be closer than ever before. Not in a pressuring way but in a manner that conveys how much happier you both will be once your relationship feels nurtured.

Nurturing actions are readily available, and though some may take a little effort, the payoff is well worth it. Think of it as an interest-bearing account. Once you put energy into your relationship, it pays dividends like contentment, excitement, joy, and desire. You get back much more than you put in.

Little acts of affection are a great tool for building nurturing. Holding hands or walking arm in arm creates the ties that bind. Also, important are little touches as you pass each other in the house; never ignore a moment when you could lovingly nurture your relationship and your partner. These little things become strong parts of a loving relationship.

If you and your partner are in different locations during the day, keeping in touch is another way to nurture your relationship. Talking, texting, and e-mailing are some of the easier ways to let your partner know you are thinking about him or her, and communicating this way can be nurturing. Just because you are not in each other’s presence does not mean you are away from one another. Learn to carry the love with you during your workday; it will make life a lot sweeter.

Remembering special dates and events that have occurred in your relationship and sharing those memories and days with the one you love creates happy and close relationships. The memories of certain times are not just kept in our minds but are part of our hearts as well. When we are reminded of these positive experiences, they become quite powerful and bonding. As a couple, remembering special days nurtures your relationship.

We all need nurturing, but just as individuals need it from one another, your relationship needs to be nurtured as well.

Absolute Love

The greatest influence known to man is absolute love. Through the ages, mystics, sages, singers and poets have all expressed the ballad and call to love. As humans, we have searched endlessly for the experience of love through the outer senses. Great nations have come and gone under the guise of love for their people. Religions have flourished and perished while claiming the true path to love. We, the people of this planet, may have missed the simplicity of absolute love.

Simply stated, absolute love is an unlimited way of being. We are without any limit to our thoughts and feelings in life and can create any reality we choose to focus our attention upon. There are infinite imaginative possibilities when we allow the freedom to go beyond our perceived limits. If we can dream it, we can build it. Life, through absolute love, is a wondrous adventure that excites the very core of our being and lights our path with delight.

Unconditional love is a dynamic and powerful energy that lifts us through the most difficult times. It is available at any moment by turning our attention to it and using its wonderful potential to free us from our limitations. It requires practice and intent to allow this energy to fully permeate our daily experience. It begins with ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be. In loving ourselves, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us. That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure. If you have not thought about how you feel towards yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally, or spiritually; begin the journey that changes everything. Begin the journey of absolute love.


The small wisdom is like water in a glass; clear, transparent, pure. The great wisdom is like the water in the sea; dark, mysterious, impenetrable.

Posted February 24, 2013 by dranilj1 in Landscape

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