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Why women want to cuddle after sex? After sex, women are high on endorphins and want to savor the buzz by feeling man’s body against hers. Women like to make eye contact and stay close after the deed is done. Women need the intimacy of post-coital connection. Women like to gaze into a man’s eyes. Post-sex affection has a big impact on sexual satisfaction and relationship with their partners.

The post-sex affection like kissing, caressing and love-talk have long-lasting effects like higher levels of satisfaction with sex lives and relationships. Post-sex affection promotes bonding and sexual satisfaction. Time spent cuddling after sex has a strong impact on relationship. Bonding time after sex is important for those who face challenges finding time for intimate connection.

Men and women enjoy sex and intimacy in different ways. There is lot of culture and socialization here. For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously guilty about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers. After sex, women need the reassurance that they, themselves, haven’t abandoned themselves to it for its pleasure.

Before you doze off, wrap your arms around her and let her feel your breath on her neck. Whisper something nice. As your breathing turns to snuffles, she will imagine you are breathing out her essential beauty. Let her think that way as you drift off to sleep.

It is ridiculous for women to claim that separating sex and intimacy is inherently degrading. It is also ridiculous for men to claim that a woman’s need for intimate connection during and after sex is a type of burdensome dependency need. Intimacy can enhance pleasure or detract from pleasure. Objectification can be a springboard to intense pleasure or an obstacle to pleasure. Drawing a line of demarcation about what is healthy or not when it comes to love and sex is dangerous and typically serves neurotic purposes. We should all just get over it.


Posted February 4, 2015 by dranilj1 in HEALTHY LIVING

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Emotional and Physical Distress Cured with New Endorphinergic Formulation

Specific biochemical imbalance in the endorphin system, the stress center of the brain and gut, underlie the emotional and physical distress experienced by millions of sufferers of a wide variety of clinical conditions. The Endorphinergic Distress Syndrome is responsible, in part, for chronic anxiety, anger, depression, cravings, and pain hypersensitivity.

The endogenous opioid system has generally been associated with regulation of pain. Endogenous opioid system also modulates the experience of distress and play a central role in many psychiatric and neurodevelopmental disorders. Decades of preclinical research on the analgesic effects of endogenous opioids, like, endorphins, suggests that opioid receptors have inhibitory-excitatory properties.

An exploratory study using a cold pressor-induced pain paradigm, found evidence that a combination of a nutraceutical agent that enhances endorphin release with one that switches opioid receptors from an excitatory to inhibitory mode not only increased pain tolerance, but also reduced emotional and physical distress. This discovery led to clinical application of a critically formulated endorphinergic treatment in 203 case studies over a two-year period.

Findings revealed the remarkable clinical efficacy and safety of this treatment in the relief of chronic emotional and physical distress, including anxiety, anger, depression, cravings, and hyperalgesia, as well as enhancement of well-being, productivity, mental clarity, relationships, and an adaptive response to life’s stresses. The study provides new insights into the role of endogenous opioid system imbalances in the development, treatment, and prevention of dysfunctional emotional and physical distress.

It is postulated that an Endorphinergic Distress Syndrome consists of abnormal endorphin levels together with opioid receptors predominately in their excitatory mode. Endorphinergic Distress Syndrome account for many core distress symptoms associated with chronic anxiety, addictions, pain, as well as affective personality, autism spectrum, attention-deficit, and distress-related medical problems.

The research has led to new endorphinergic formulations, combining Endorphin Enhancers, such as caffeine, with Opioid Receptor Switchers, such as n-acetylcysteine, for the relief of emotional and physical distress. The study provides a novel method to reverse the anxiogenic effects of caffeine and related hyper-excitatory substances.

Just Get Up, Get Out, and Put One Foot In Front Of the Other

The modern world we live in is full of stress, unhappiness, insecurity, and depression. Our jobs, the commutes, traffic, finances, family, relationships, dating, the news, and never enough time all weigh heavily on us, dragging us down. Stress wears the body out and depletes important neurotransmitters, nutrients, and minerals which lead to fatigue, irritability, depression, anxiety, inability to sleep, bad eating habits, and many other negative effects.

The cure to mental health problems and many physical problems is as simple as taking a 30-minute walk each day. Exercise decreases stress, relieves anxiety, creates a sense of well-being, increases confidence, improves sleep, and relaxes both body and mind. This is in addition to the benefits to heart health, circulation, the lungs, and our muscles.

How many of us watch a half hour of television each night? Just cutting out one short show each day gives you plenty of free time to take a walk. If you have a treadmill, you can even keep the show and walk at the same time. We aren’t talking about running a marathon or even jogging a mile. You don’t have to push yourself too hard; just get up, get out, and put one foot in front of the other for 30 minutes. Walking is one of the easiest forms of exercise. You can do it anywhere, even in place if you can’t get outside. If half an hour leaves you gasping for air, start with 20 minutes and work up to 30 over a few weeks. After 30 minutes of any exercise, the muscles run out of stored oxygen and turn to anaerobic respiration. This builds up lactic acid which signals the brain to release endorphins. Endorphins reduce pain and stress while creating sensations of pleasure and euphoria. Endorphins act much like antidepressants, but without the side effects, synthetic drugs, and addictive properties.

Exercise improves memory and cognitive functions by increasing the connections between neurons. This makes it easier to deal with stress as brain moves faster, work is easier, and it takes less effort to pull up memories. Thirty minutes a day is also the perfect amount to prevent weight gain and to safely, slowly lose pounds. Walking lowers bad cholesterol, raise good cholesterol, lower blood pressure, reduce the risk of diabetes, build lean muscles, and strengthen bones. Once you’re comfortable with 30 minutes a day, feel free to extend it to 45 minutes or even an hour. The time is well spent when it adds years to your life and makes those years healthier, happier, and more thought through. Make it a habit and it will be one of the best habits you’ve ever picked up. It is difficult at first, but you’ll be glad in the long run as you feel happier, less stressed, more confident, and healthier.

You Are In Charge Of Your Own Happiness

Life teaches many things, time and again in ways one fails to understand at the time. One may completely lack self confidence and esteem, making one painfully shy and severely depressed. At times, we feel like giving up. Such things are given to us to make us realize that we are in charge of our life. We can stand up for ourselves and take charge that we do matter, and it feels great! Self esteem and self confidence are the prerequisites for happiness and success.

We tend to forget we are in charge and will allow external events knock us sideways. Depression may set in and one feels helpless, lost and lonely once again. We have to find the internal strength we all have, remind ourselves that we are not helpless and can get out of this, and that is exactly what anyone can do. Find that part of you that can deal with anything, nurture it, encourage it, and make it bigger.

Remember you are in charge of your thoughts, your life, your reactions and your emotions. Bad things will happen, or events we don’t see coming, but when we are in charge of ourselves, we can deal with it and find a way through. While we may at times feel sad, disappointed, hurt or rejected, we know this is a temporary state, we should support ourselves and move through, knowing it won’t be long until the next lot of laughter.

You should love the self no matter what. When we like ourselves, everything in life is so much easier. There is always someone there to provide support and encouragement, always someone is there to tell us it too will pass. There is always someone there when you need a good talking. It is impossible to feel alone or unloved.

Loving yourself just as you are is the one thing everyone has to do. It is easier to change the things you want to. Many are terrified of changes, of failing or succeeding, of rejection or loneliness, not wanting to stand out or make a difference. But as we learn to love and support ourselves we will flourish, fears fall away and life is there to be enjoyed once again.

So don’t struggle through life, don’t let fear stand in the way. Take charge and love who you are, stand out, make yourself heard, support yourself every step of the way.

We are all absolutely, perfectly fabulous, just as we are.

Thoughts about Child Behavior Disorders

All young children can be naughty, defiant and impulsive from time to time, which is perfectly normal. However, some children have extremely difficult and challenging behaviors that are outside the norm for their age. The most common disruptive behavior disorders include oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorder and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. These three behavioral disorders share some common symptoms, so diagnosis can be difficult and time consuming. A child or adolescent may have two disorders at the same time. Other exacerbating factors can include emotional problems, mood disorders, family difficulties and substance abuse.

Around one in ten children under the age of 12 years are thought to have oppositional defiant disorder, with boys outnumbering girls by two to one. Some of the typical behaviors of a child with oppositional defiant disorder include, easily angered, annoyed or irritated; frequent temper tantrums; argues frequently with adults, particularly the most familiar adults in their lives, such as parents; refusal to obey rules; seems to deliberately try to annoy or aggravate others; low self-esteem; low frustration threshold; seeks to blame others for any misfortunes or misdeeds.

Children with conduct disorder are often judged as ‘bad kids’ because of their delinquent behavior and refusal to accept rules. Around five per cent of 10 year olds are thought to have conduct disorder, with boys outnumbering girls by four to one. Around one-third of children with conduct disorder also have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

Some of the typical behaviors of a child with conduct disorder may include, frequent refusal to obey parents or other authority figures; repeated truancy; tendency to use drugs, including cigarettes and alcohol, at a very early age; lack of empathy for others; being aggressive to animals and other people or showing sadistic behaviors including bullying and physical or sexual abuse; keenness to start physical fights; using weapons in physical fights; frequent lying; criminal behavior such as stealing; deliberately lighting fires, breaking into houses and vandalism; a tendency to run away from home; suicidal tendencies, although these are more rare.

Around two to five per cent of children are thought to have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, with boys outnumbering girls by three to one. The characteristics of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can include; inattention, difficulty concentrating, forgetting instructions, moving from one task to another without completing anything; impulsivity, talking over the top of others, having a ‘short fuse’, being accident-prone; overactivity, constant restlessness and fidgeting.

Dissociation & Dissociative Disorders

Dissociation is a mental process where a person disconnects from their thoughts, feelings, memories or sense of identity. Dissociative disorders include dissociative amnesia, dissociative fugue, depersonalization disorder and dissociative identity disorder.

People who experience a traumatic event will often have some degree of dissociation during the event itself or in the following hours, days or weeks. For example, the event seems ‘unreal’ or the person feels detached from what’s going on around them as if watching the events on television. In most cases, the dissociation resolves without the need for treatment.

Some people, however, develop a dissociative disorder that requires treatment. Dissociative disorders are controversial and complex problems that need specific diagnosis, treatment and support. If you are concerned that you or a loved one may have a dissociative disorder, it is important to seek professional help.

Symptoms and signs of dissociative disorders depend on the type and severity, but may include:

Feeling disconnected from yourself.

Problems with handling intense emotions.

Sudden and unexpected shifts in mood – for example, feeling very sad for no reason.

Depression or anxiety problems or both.

Feeling as though the world is distorted or not real (called ‘derealization’).

Memory problems that aren’t linked to physical injury or medical conditions.

Other cognitive (thought-related) problems such as concentration problems.

Significant memory lapses such as forgetting important personal information.

Feeling compelled to behave in a certain way.

Identity confusion, for example, behaving in a way that the person would normally find offensive or abhorrent.

Mental health professionals recognize four main types of dissociative disorder, including dissociative amnesia, dissociative fugue, depersonalization disorder, dissociative identity disorder and dissociative amnesia.

Dissociative amnesia is when a person can’t remember the details of a traumatic or stressful event, although they do realize they are experiencing memory loss. This is also known as psychogenic amnesia. This type of amnesia can last from a few days to one or more years. Dissociative amnesia may be linked to other disorders such as an anxiety disorder.

The four categories of dissociative amnesia include:

Localized amnesia – for a time, the person has no memory of the traumatic event at all. For example, following an assault, a person with localized amnesia may not recall any details for a few days.

Selective amnesia – the person has patchy or incomplete memories of the traumatic event.

Generalized amnesia – the person has trouble remembering the details of their entire life.

Systematized amnesia – the person may have a very particular and specific memory loss; for example, they may have no recollection of one relative.

Dissociative fugue is also known as psychogenic fugue. The person suddenly, and without any warning, can’t remember who they are and has no memory of their past. They don’t realize they are experiencing memory loss and may invent a new identity. Typically, the person travels from home – sometimes over thousands of kilometers – while in the fugue, which may last between hours and months. When the person comes out of their dissociative fugue, they are usually confused with no recollection of the ‘new life’ they have made for themselves.

Depersonalization disorder is characterized by feeling detached from one’s life, thoughts and feelings. People with this type of disorder say they feel distant and emotionally unconnected to themselves, as if they are watching a character in a boring movie. Other typical symptoms include problems with concentration and memory. The person may report feeling ‘spacey’ or out of control. Time may slow down. They may perceive their body to be a different shape or size than usual; in severe cases, they cannot recognize themselves in a mirror.

Dissociative identity disorder is the most controversial of the dissociative disorders and is disputed and debated among mental health professionals. Previously called multiple personality disorder, this is the most severe kind of dissociative disorder. The condition typically involves the coexistence of two or more personality states within the same person. While the different personality states influence the person’s behavior, the person is usually not aware of these personality states and experiences them as memory lapses. The other states may have different body language, voice tone, outlook on life and memories. The person may switch to another personality state when under stress. A person who has dissociative identity disorder almost always has dissociative amnesia too.

Most mental health professionals believe that the underlying cause of dissociative disorders is chronic trauma in childhood. Examples of trauma included repeated physical or sexual abuse, emotional abuse or neglect. Unpredictable or frightening family environments may also cause the child to ‘disconnect’ from reality during times of stress. It seems that the severity of the dissociative disorder in adulthood is directly related to the severity of the childhood trauma. Traumatic events that occur during adulthood may also cause dissociative disorders. Such events may include war, torture or going through a natural disaster.

Without treatment, possible complications for a person with a dissociative disorder may include:

Life difficulties such as broken relationships and job loss.

Sleep problems such as insomnia.

Sexual problems.

Severe depression.

Anxiety disorders.

Eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia.

Problematic drug use including alcoholism.

Self-harm, including suicide.

Dissociative disorders always require professional diagnosis and care. Diagnosis can be tricky because dissociative disorders are complex and their symptoms are common to a number of other conditions. For example, physical causes (such as head trauma or brain tumors) can cause amnesia and other cognitive problems. Mental illnesses such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, panic disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder may cause similar symptoms to a dissociative disorder. The effects of certain substances, including some recreational drugs and prescription medications, can mimic symptoms. Diagnosis may be further hampered when a dissociative disorder coexists with another mental health problem such as depression.

The effectiveness of treatments for dissociative disorders has not been studied. Treatment options are based on case studies, not research. Generally speaking, treatment may take many years. Options may include: a safe environment: doctors will try to get the person to feel safe and relaxed, which is enough to trigger memory recall in some people with dissociative disorders. Psychiatric drugs such as barbiturates. Hypnosis may help to recover repressed memories, although this form of treatment for dissociative disorders is considered controversial. Psychotherapy also known as ‘talk therapy’ or counseling is usually needed for the long term. Examples include cognitive therapy and psychoanalysis. Stress has to be managed since stress can trigger symptoms. Typically, a person with a dissociative disorder may have other mental health problems such as depression or anxiety. Treatment may include antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications to try to improve the symptoms of the dissociative disorder.

Disconnected Thoughts and Disconnected Life

Post traumatic stress is an anxiety disorder. Anxiety can make one feel like one is going crazy. It creates abnormal fears and thought patterns because of these fears. Generally, post traumatic stress occurs after a traumatic event in life. A traumatic event generally brings it out. That is where the name comes from. It could be a death, terrorist attack, abuse from the past, or anything that creates traumatic feelings. Other factors of post traumatic stress include arousal, anxiety, and restlessness, irritability, disturbances in sleep, impairment in memory or concentration. There may be anger and rage.

Differentiating post traumatic stress from other disorders is sometimes difficult. You may experience problems with grief, depression, suicidal ideation and attempts, impulsive self-destructive behaviors, anxiety related disorders, and substance abuse. Patients may appear avoidant, schizoid, schizophrenic, paranoid, or even manic. These symptoms complicate treatment, especially if the post traumatic stress is ignored and only the other diagnoses are treated. The best approach to post traumatic stress is to eliminate the symptoms.

Generally, one should get a psychiatric evaluation which saves one from years of torment. Post traumatic stress is the result of trauma, a traumatic event or an event that one ha perceived as traumatic. Anxiety can actually create a post trauma response. One should insist on something to reduce some of the anxiety so that one can see other symptoms more clearly. So many disorders overlap one another with symptoms. Post traumatic stress is composed of anxiety and fear. A person’s thoughts will not become irrational with post traumatic stress, but this does not mean that thoughts are not irrational in one who suffers from post traumatic stress. One can also have delusions and hallucinations. Accept whatever the disorder may be and work with it to become better.

Disconnected and racing thoughts are so hard to explain. It is the repetition of a thought or jumbled thoughts. It is thoughts going through mind in pieces versus complete thoughts. Thoughts go so fast that one cannot make out what one is even trying to think about. It is very hard to concentrate on anything as the thoughts are disconnected or incomplete. You try to sleep and your mind will not stop thinking. One may even know what one thinks often does not make any sense or have any relevancy to what one is going through. You are unable to complete your thoughts about anything. It is difficult to do simplest things as one has trouble figuring out in which order to do what. It is a serious state of confusion. Thoughts are often irrational and very bothersome. Post traumatic stress is an anxiety issue and when one is under so much stress; real or imagined, one becomes afraid and begins to lose the ability to think straight.

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