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The Path of Love

 

In search of God you do not need to go anywhere. No temples, no church, no mosque are not true abode of God. They are built by man. The true abode of God is this body that God himself came up and created. The body is a living temple, saying temple, and moving temple. The temple was designed by no ordinary engineer. It was created by pure will of God. Therefore, it is a sacred gift from God. You must take care of the gift as the apple of his eye. You need to properly use the body for the implementation of the Self

The body is the first tool of the righteous deeds; therefore, the body should be used to perform daily spiritual practice, not only for food and drink. Of course, nutrition is essential to maintain the body. Food is there to protect the body and the clothes to protect from the cold, but if you think all the time about food and about the wealth, when you think about God? If the food is good, mind, too, will be all right. When the mind is all right, you can reach God. You have to understand that the food and mind are designed for realization of God.

Posted February 7, 2017 by dranilj1 in BODY_MIND_HEART_SPIRIT

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Cuddling

 

COUPLE-CUDDLE

Why women want to cuddle after sex? After sex, women are high on endorphins and want to savor the buzz by feeling man’s body against hers. Women like to make eye contact and stay close after the deed is done. Women need the intimacy of post-coital connection. Women like to gaze into a man’s eyes. Post-sex affection has a big impact on sexual satisfaction and relationship with their partners.

The post-sex affection like kissing, caressing and love-talk have long-lasting effects like higher levels of satisfaction with sex lives and relationships. Post-sex affection promotes bonding and sexual satisfaction. Time spent cuddling after sex has a strong impact on relationship. Bonding time after sex is important for those who face challenges finding time for intimate connection.

Men and women enjoy sex and intimacy in different ways. There is lot of culture and socialization here. For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously guilty about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers. After sex, women need the reassurance that they, themselves, haven’t abandoned themselves to it for its pleasure.

Before you doze off, wrap your arms around her and let her feel your breath on her neck. Whisper something nice. As your breathing turns to snuffles, she will imagine you are breathing out her essential beauty. Let her think that way as you drift off to sleep.

It is ridiculous for women to claim that separating sex and intimacy is inherently degrading. It is also ridiculous for men to claim that a woman’s need for intimate connection during and after sex is a type of burdensome dependency need. Intimacy can enhance pleasure or detract from pleasure. Objectification can be a springboard to intense pleasure or an obstacle to pleasure. Drawing a line of demarcation about what is healthy or not when it comes to love and sex is dangerous and typically serves neurotic purposes. We should all just get over it.

Posted February 4, 2015 by dranilj1 in HEALTHY LIVING

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What Mindfulness Is Not!


Mindfulness is frequently misconceived. Exactly this type of misconceptions pilot individuals to abandon practice too early. Such misconceptions foil reaping of the full benefits of true mindfulness. Mindfulness is not bringing to an end of thinking. It is becoming aware of thoughts as they rise, and then bringing the mind back to the intended object of awareness, normally the breath. To suppose the mind to not think is nonsensical. The brain is designed to think. We think the majority of our waking life. It is irrational to anticipate the brain to shut off its thinking approach. When we meditate, we realize we are not in control.

Mindfulness is not invulnerable to fast-everything culture. There are teachers, and books that declare the thought that just a few minutes of mindfulness from time to time is sufficient. That regrettably is not the case. It is right that a slight bit of mindfulness is better than none. Mindfulness is like any other skill. Practice a little, and you will make little progress. Practice a lot, and you will gain a lot. A good criterion for mindfulness practice is 30 minutes of strict practice every day, first thing in the morning, as one can reap the benefit of early morning practice during the whole day.

Guided imagery, a gentle but powerful technique that focuses and directs the imagination has its own set of healing properties. It is not mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is refining awareness of the present moment, not being taken away somewhere else. Remember to stay where you are. With that statement, comes the immediate implication that meditation is not a good thing and should be dumped. This idea comes from the false postulation that mindfulness is about feeling good. Mindfulness often leads to feeling more peaceful and content within oneself, but it is also not unusual to feel physical and emotional pains that one was not aware of before. Meditation is about being mindful of what is, no matter how pleasant or unpleasant.

Mindfulness is not a passive activity. Mindfulness in daily life, circumscribe both moment-to-moment awareness and skillful interventions based on what is observed. If I find my thoughts going in a direction, which I know is harmful to myself or others, I am to stop those thoughts and substitute them with other more flexible thoughts. This comes with practice, and is an important aspect of mindfulness. Commonly used cognitive therapy techniques for depression and anxiety, are a version of such mindfulness practice.

To get lost into the flow of a pleasurable or creative activity is not mindfulness. It does entail the ability to concentrate. When we do a task for hours, we get so absorbed into what we are doing, that we lose track of time. But one could not remember much of what had happened during all those hours. When one meditates, the opposite happens. The emphasis is on putting full mind on the present moment and being aware. Mindfulness is comprised of insight; the ability to learn about self in relationship to the present moment experience.


Posted October 15, 2013 by dranilj1 in Mind and Heart

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Combined Effort of Neuroscience and Yoga Aids Us Solve Problems In New and Indispensable Ways


The human brain is a complex system of the highest order, representing a multitude of capacities that are critical to normal and everyday functioning. To live a healthy life undoubtedly entails, having a healthy brain and nervous system. It is responsible for our most fundamental abilities, for instance cognition, memory, planning, emotions, and body function regulation. In addition to the ability of the brain to process these features that we take for granted as part of our everyday experience, within this powerhouse laid the very foundations for maximizing our functionality and potential as human beings. This applies to the basic functions such as those above as well as features not normally accessed nor widely known or understood. To tap into this wealth of resources within ourselves, we have the perennial technology of yoga as guide.

Yoga is a scientific technology that harnesses the innate capacity of the human being to realize that of which it is truly capable. Yoga is comprised of many formalized systems formulated in cultures all over the world, each presenting a different angle and emphasis. In the West, the system of yoga postures has become the most popular with this being but one aspect of the art and science of yoga. As a whole, yoga is a way of being that uses the existing capabilities of the human mind and brain, both in individuals and in collectives, to align us with our highest potential.

The principles derived from harnessing our current state using yogic technologies are seamlessly applicable in traditional yogic practice as well as in everyday relationships, business, and beyond. Yoga is not what we do, but how we do something. The various methods developed throughout the ages across the world’s myriad yogic systems are merely isolated techniques if not taken in consideration with the goal in mind and tailored to the unique makeup or configuration of the individual or group applying them. With such an abundance of styles and systems, it has now become more critical than ever before to have an integrally-informed approach to contextualizing which modalities are useful for particular needs and configurations. If knowledge of the brain and yogic principles are dovetailed appropriately, an integral practice can be developed that fits any application.

As has been known from the modern research and for ages from those who have themselves enacted yoga, the application of yogic principles and techniques literally affects how the brain works and can lead to lasting changes by taking advantage of the plasticity of the nervous system, to be exact, malleability of the body due to varying degrees of mental and environmental influence called neuroplasticity. It is the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Neuroplasticity allows the nerve cells in the brain to compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.

Brain reorganization takes place by mechanisms such as axonal sprouting in which undamaged axons grow new nerve endings to reconnect neurons whose links were injured or severed. Undamaged axons can also sprout nerve endings and connect with other undamaged nerve cells, forming new neural pathways to accomplish a needed function. For example, if one hemisphere of the brain is damaged, the intact hemisphere may take over some of its functions. The brain compensates for damage in effect by reorganizing and forming new connections between intact neurons. In order to reconnect, the neurons need to be stimulated through activity.

Neuroplasticity sometimes may also contribute to impairment. For example, people who are deaf may suffer from a continual ringing in their ears called tinnitus, the result of the rewiring of brain cells starved for sound. For neurons to form beneficial connections, they must be correctly stimulated. Neuroplasticity is also called brain plasticity or brain malleability. This plasticity is the basic entryway for hacking our nervous system to elicit higher performance and function. Yoga allows this to occur through internal means, whether applied in one aspect of life or another. In a practical sense, yoga is a tool for preparing the raw material of the current state of our mind, body, and spirit for further processing into more refined and efficient forms.

With a higher intention in mind, the ordinary components of the body, mind, and spirit can be progressively upgraded to enable higher functioning and performance. In tandem with these internally generated changes also arise external changes that may include environment, circumstances, and relationships; a phenomenon in line with the inherent laws of consciousness, which operates across boundaries frequently assumed to be concrete. Taken far enough, it is realized that the seeds for the maximum potential of any authentically desired goal lay within reach, waiting for the right tools to activate them.

By activating the capabilities of the nervous system through the use of yogic principles, the process of reaching a goal can be optimized by modifying how we direct our efforts. Neuroscience and yoga together induce the changes necessary to propel us on our paths and applications.


Techniques to Strike Negative Thinking


We are worried. We are desperate. In our mind, we go through everything that had gone wrong. Why do we forget? What would we feed our children? Where would we sleep? How could we be so stupid??? We go in full force into negative thinking. Realize such thoughts do not do us any good at all. In fact, they are harmful. With our mind full of what ifs, there will be no room or energy for realistic problem solving. Once we slow down, we realize that we wouldn’t starve, and that we are resourceful enough to deal with the situation.

Negative thoughts often sneak up when we are stressed, anxious, or depressed. Once negative thoughts take root, they impede helpful, critical, and logical thinking. Deal with negative thoughts as they appear. Help your body relax. Breathe deeply 5 times; take a drink of water; loosen up your arms and legs, roll your shoulders. If you have the time, you can even do progressive relaxation. Having a body that is relaxed will make mind less stressed and encourage new problem solving.

Think of the ultimate worst case scenario. Coming up with the worst case scenario forces mind to think outside the box. Ask for help from someone you trust. If you lost a job, ask a close friend for help understanding why. If you struggle with your weight, talk with your doctor. Don’t let shame or embarrassment keep you stuck. The more minds that work at solving a problem, the better.

Make a plan. It doesn’t have to be super, long or incredibly detailed. The purpose is to give us an outline or a map of what to do next. Replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. Don’t just think them, though. Write them out and put them where you will see them; on bathroom mirror, steering wheel, as a screensaver on computer. Negative thoughts can bog people down and prevent them from problem solving. The more we can rid ourselves of them, the freer our mind will be to problem solve rather than perseverate.

In the end, we will be able to clearly think through a plan to deal with the problem and we would not be bitter, angry or stressed.


Where Do We Come From…What Are We…Where Are We Going!


In this Infinite Universal Consciousness this entire universe is pervaded. When a spark of this Universal Consciousness is conditioned and undergoes modification by mixing with Nature Elements or with the external body, then this conditioned consciousness is called mind. In such a situation, consciousness forgets its true nature that it is a part of and of the nature of that Infinite Universal Consciousness. This mind after forgetting its true nature, that is to say, being part of and of the nature of that Infinite Universal Consciousness, inherits a body and makes appearance in this world. Such a conditioned soul takes birth in different bodies and moves from one body to other body after death. Such a journey of soul goes forever until it sees the truth again.

Infinite Universal Consciousness, is independent of all these and pervades this whole universe; beyond this mind and beyond body. It is due to ignorance or after forgetting the Infinite Universal Consciousness that this universe exists. Once we know ourselves to be a part and parcel of that Infinite Universal Consciousness, then this illusion of universe disappears and we become one with the Infinite Universal Consciousness.

Sri Krishna says that the living entities in this conditioned world are His eternal fragmental parts. Due to conditioned life, they are struggling very hard with the six senses, which include the mind. The living entity in the material world carries different conceptions of life from one body to another as the air carries aromas. Thus we take one kind of body and again quit it to take another. The living entity, thus taking another gross body, obtains a certain type of ear, eye, tongue, nose and sense of touch, which are grouped about the mind. The living entity thus enjoys a particular set of sense objects.

The foolish cannot understand how a living entity can quit his body, nor can they understand what sort of body he enjoys under the spell of the modes of nature. But one whose eyes are trained in knowledge can see all this. The endeavoring transcendentalists, who are situated in self-realization, can see all this clearly. But those whose minds are not developed and who are not situated in self-realization cannot see what is taking place, though they may try to. Infinite Universal Consciousness is seated in everyone’s heart, and from it comes remembrance, knowledge and forgetfulness. There are two classes of beings, the fallible and the infallible. In the material world every living entity is fallible, and in the spiritual world every living entity is called infallible. Besides these two, there is the greatest living personality, the God Soul, the imperishable Lord Himself, who has entered the three worlds and is maintaining them.


Mindfulness in a Crisis


You are in a crisis. It can be any number of things from dealing with an illness, the death of a beloved, sitting in the dentist’s chair. It could even be laying on an operating table in pre-op for a serious operation or a diagnosis of cancer. What can we do to reduce our fear? First, you will note that in your mind you will do a constant “reality check". You will remind yourself of your status. “I am on the gurney". “This is going to hurt". “I am scared". “I can’t believe this is happening to me."

Now, just what is going on here? Why do we feel it is necessary to have this internal discussion with ourselves? Is it making things better or worse? The answer is, we are amplifying our fears. The fact is that it is the fear which is far worse than the pain. We all face small bothersome ones and big earth-shattering ones. The sudden and unexpected events change the natural order of our world. Mindfulness can help during these times, helping us make better decisions, and trust in the unfolding of life.

Learn how to calm your nervous system and all it takes is a few deep breaths to take you out of panic mode. Simply, put one hand on your abdomen, and one on your heart, you will know you are calming your nervous system when you can feel the hand on your abdomen rise up and down. Conversely, shallow breathing that only uses the upper part of the chest will have the opposite reaction, keeping you in a state of fight, flight, or freeze. Practicing this breathing exercise for only three to five minutes, several times a day can be especially helpful during the first few days of a crisis.

The next step to using mindfulness in a crisis is to consciously take hold of your thoughts. In a crisis, the tendency is to try to come up with a solution as soon as possible. Often, we do not let the mind rest until the crisis has passed. This can be a waist of precious energy as the mind works like a hamster on a wheel reviewing the same story line over and over. Try taking a break from your thoughts. Using the same breathing exercise as above, watch your thoughts and gently tell yourself, “I am taking a break from thinking right now.” The mind will rebel against this idea, but continue to gently bring your attention back to your breath. Know that this break will give you the ability to be a better problem solver.

Practice self-care by extending loving-kindness inward, you will be better able to carry it with you out into the world. Try this simple exercise: Using the same breathing technique outlined above, say to yourself, “I breathe in peace, I breathe out love.” Repeat this phrase, bringing your mind back to the breath if it wanders. You will feel a sense of connection to the universe and a trust in the order of things.

Remember, mindfulness self-care is one of the first practices to go when we are faced with a crisis. Don’t forget your mindfulness practice! As you gain experience, you will know the power of mindfulness even in small doses. If your schedule is disrupted and you don’t have time for a longer formal practice, go back to the simple breathing technique at the top. Try to practice it two or three times a day.


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