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Good People, With Good Causes, Suck You In

Believe in your own thought. You do as you feel when you feel it is right. If you believe in yourself you do not have to depend on others to think for you. State aloud your sleeping conviction that is inside you waiting to come out so that they could be universally accepted; for in due time, the inmost becomes the outermost and our first thought will come back to us at the end when it is too late to do anything about it. Speak not what others want you to speak but what you think. Learn to identify and observe that non-directional light that is feeble and unsteady which flashes across your mind from within, more than the stars light of all the poets and philosophers. Our own thoughts are more important for ourselves at least more than all the thoughts of poets and philosophers. We dismiss our thoughts only to recognize it when it comes back to us with a certain alienated majesty from others. We should pay attention to our own thoughts, impressions, observations, and insights. There is one big difference between great poets and thinkers of the past and ourselves and that is they are all dead and we are alive. Stand by your spontaneous impression with a cool detachment to the whole cry of voices on the other side. Else, tomorrow a stranger will say with masterly good sense precisely what you have thought and felt all the time, and you shall be forced to take with shame your own opinion from another. It is so easy to fall in line and do all the things that the society associates with a perfect life. It is the good people, with good causes, who can really suck you in.

Cuddling

 

COUPLE-CUDDLE


Why women want to cuddle after sex? After sex, women are high on endorphins and want to savor the buzz by feeling man’s body against hers. Women like to make eye contact and stay close after the deed is done. Women need the intimacy of post-coital connection. Women like to gaze into a man’s eyes. Post-sex affection has a big impact on sexual satisfaction and relationship with their partners.

The post-sex affection like kissing, caressing and love-talk have long-lasting effects like higher levels of satisfaction with sex lives and relationships. Post-sex affection promotes bonding and sexual satisfaction. Time spent cuddling after sex has a strong impact on relationship. Bonding time after sex is important for those who face challenges finding time for intimate connection.

Men and women enjoy sex and intimacy in different ways. There is lot of culture and socialization here. For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously guilty about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers. After sex, women need the reassurance that they, themselves, haven’t abandoned themselves to it for its pleasure.

Before you doze off, wrap your arms around her and let her feel your breath on her neck. Whisper something nice. As your breathing turns to snuffles, she will imagine you are breathing out her essential beauty. Let her think that way as you drift off to sleep.

It is ridiculous for women to claim that separating sex and intimacy is inherently degrading. It is also ridiculous for men to claim that a woman’s need for intimate connection during and after sex is a type of burdensome dependency need. Intimacy can enhance pleasure or detract from pleasure. Objectification can be a springboard to intense pleasure or an obstacle to pleasure. Drawing a line of demarcation about what is healthy or not when it comes to love and sex is dangerous and typically serves neurotic purposes. We should all just get over it.

Posted February 4, 2015 by dranilj1 in HEALTHY LIVING

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It All Happens For A Reason


It is a fact that we don’t see all there is before us, our eyes ability is limited to see this dimension only, our brains filter out other information that it deems is unnecessary. What we conceive as reality in our minds may all be an illusion created by our mind, thus becoming the greatest lie of all. It is true that we alone are the sole architect who can create and form our reality. Are you really sure that a floor can’t also be a ceiling? The human understanding is like a false mirror, which, receiving rays irregularly; distorts and discolors the nature of things by mingling its own nature with it.

Imagination is all an illusion, a vision of what was, is, could be, a conception of a thought brought into reality by the wandering of an ever restless mind. Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces. Imagination is the one weapon in the war against reality.

As you perceive reality When you argue with reality you are going to loose. I’m not crazy about reality, but it’s still the only place to get a decent meal. Reality does not conform to the ideal, but confirms it. Reality leaves a lot to the imagination. Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn’t go away. Until we realize that things might not be we cannot realize that things are. Since we cannot change reality, let us change the eyes which see reality.

Your goals, minus your doubts, equal your reality. People see the world not as it is, but as they are. Reality is not always probable, or likely. Don’t dwell on reality; it will only keep you from greatness. Reality bites… and doesn’t let go. One might speak to great length of the three corners of reality what was seen, what was thought to be seen, and what was thought ought to be seen. Time and memory are true artists; they remold reality nearer to the heart’s desire. There are some people, who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.

The reality of life is that your perceptions — right or wrong — influence everything else you do. When you get a proper perspective of your perceptions, you may be surprised how many other things fall into place. There are intangible realities which float near us, formless and without words; realities which no one has thought out, and which are excluded for lack of interpreters. It takes only one other person to say it’s so-one other point of reality to make something real.


If Not Now, When!


Have you started to think about what changes you would like to make in this moment? Who do you really want to be? It’s your time; will you take it higher? Stop judging and start committing. Where you are currently is just a result of all you have thought and done in the past. If you want a different future, simply commit to life-enhancing changes. If you hate where you are and thinking only about what you don’t like, you are giving life exactly what you want to let go of. Bring love in and think about exactly what it is you do want.

When you are thinking about the changes you want to make in your life: ask what you want? Why do you want it? Are you willing to commit to what you want? Can you do it? Will you do it? Do you act out of love? How will your life be different afterwards? How will you be different afterwards?

Take whatever steps you can take every day and know that whatever you can do is enough, but important is do what you can do. Show the powerful intention to make the changes you would like to see. If you intend and expect the best for your future, it is a universal law that that is exactly what you will see. Make the process of creating and living a life you love, in a body you love, a loving promise you make to yourself, and let this be the moment, because if not now, when?

Every human being possesses a creative capacity. Pure energy is emanating from the source of the universe, and each of us receives a steady supply of this energy. How we use it from moment to moment determines our own future and the future of the world. This universal energy has infinite potential. Each of us assigns a shape to that energy by means of our thoughts and words. This is the process of creation.


Posted October 28, 2013 by dranilj1 in Life Lessons

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You Are In Charge Of Your Own Happiness


Life teaches many things, time and again in ways one fails to understand at the time. One may completely lack self confidence and esteem, making one painfully shy and severely depressed. At times, we feel like giving up. Such things are given to us to make us realize that we are in charge of our life. We can stand up for ourselves and take charge that we do matter, and it feels great! Self esteem and self confidence are the prerequisites for happiness and success.

We tend to forget we are in charge and will allow external events knock us sideways. Depression may set in and one feels helpless, lost and lonely once again. We have to find the internal strength we all have, remind ourselves that we are not helpless and can get out of this, and that is exactly what anyone can do. Find that part of you that can deal with anything, nurture it, encourage it, and make it bigger.

Remember you are in charge of your thoughts, your life, your reactions and your emotions. Bad things will happen, or events we don’t see coming, but when we are in charge of ourselves, we can deal with it and find a way through. While we may at times feel sad, disappointed, hurt or rejected, we know this is a temporary state, we should support ourselves and move through, knowing it won’t be long until the next lot of laughter.

You should love the self no matter what. When we like ourselves, everything in life is so much easier. There is always someone there to provide support and encouragement, always someone is there to tell us it too will pass. There is always someone there when you need a good talking. It is impossible to feel alone or unloved.

Loving yourself just as you are is the one thing everyone has to do. It is easier to change the things you want to. Many are terrified of changes, of failing or succeeding, of rejection or loneliness, not wanting to stand out or make a difference. But as we learn to love and support ourselves we will flourish, fears fall away and life is there to be enjoyed once again.

So don’t struggle through life, don’t let fear stand in the way. Take charge and love who you are, stand out, make yourself heard, support yourself every step of the way.

We are all absolutely, perfectly fabulous, just as we are.


How different from your thoughts are your actions?


Do as I say not as I do go the saying. We feel and act to thoughts we breed. Mind finds ways to remain in equilibrium. Continually dissimilar mind and body gives rise to a lifestyle that unwrap the entrance to chronic sickness. Some people are utterly unaware of such conflicts. They don’t even know that their own thoughts are not in alignment with their intentions. For many, this negative self talk takes a devastating fee. This is a disconnection between what is said and what is really wanted.

Tyr working with a Grumpy Gus who complains about everything, sees the worst in everyone and then describes himself to others as “happy-go-lucky” or “laid back!” A Nervous Nellie constantly worries about looming disaster, yet defines one’s self as spiritual and optimistic! This psychological disconnection leads to exacerbation of physical ailments. What about your own thoughts and desires? Do your actions match your thoughts and dreams? Do you fantasize of a healthier you, yet no action steps have been taken? Do you want closer relationships with others, yet you consistently shut them out? Do you want to make progress toward your goals, yet your negative self talk constantly holds you back?

So, battle you thoughts into manageable and identifiable themes. Awareness is the key and accounting our thoughts is an impressive technique to achieve awareness. First thing in the morning, write down your thoughts. Don’t worry about having anything to say, simply write down anything that comes to mind. Soon enough, a picture will begin to materialize. A picture of what you are thinking and in what way those thoughts might be holding you back.

What Mindfulness Is Not!


Mindfulness is frequently misconceived. Exactly this type of misconceptions pilot individuals to abandon practice too early. Such misconceptions foil reaping of the full benefits of true mindfulness. Mindfulness is not bringing to an end of thinking. It is becoming aware of thoughts as they rise, and then bringing the mind back to the intended object of awareness, normally the breath. To suppose the mind to not think is nonsensical. The brain is designed to think. We think the majority of our waking life. It is irrational to anticipate the brain to shut off its thinking approach. When we meditate, we realize we are not in control.

Mindfulness is not invulnerable to fast-everything culture. There are teachers, and books that declare the thought that just a few minutes of mindfulness from time to time is sufficient. That regrettably is not the case. It is right that a slight bit of mindfulness is better than none. Mindfulness is like any other skill. Practice a little, and you will make little progress. Practice a lot, and you will gain a lot. A good criterion for mindfulness practice is 30 minutes of strict practice every day, first thing in the morning, as one can reap the benefit of early morning practice during the whole day.

Guided imagery, a gentle but powerful technique that focuses and directs the imagination has its own set of healing properties. It is not mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is refining awareness of the present moment, not being taken away somewhere else. Remember to stay where you are. With that statement, comes the immediate implication that meditation is not a good thing and should be dumped. This idea comes from the false postulation that mindfulness is about feeling good. Mindfulness often leads to feeling more peaceful and content within oneself, but it is also not unusual to feel physical and emotional pains that one was not aware of before. Meditation is about being mindful of what is, no matter how pleasant or unpleasant.

Mindfulness is not a passive activity. Mindfulness in daily life, circumscribe both moment-to-moment awareness and skillful interventions based on what is observed. If I find my thoughts going in a direction, which I know is harmful to myself or others, I am to stop those thoughts and substitute them with other more flexible thoughts. This comes with practice, and is an important aspect of mindfulness. Commonly used cognitive therapy techniques for depression and anxiety, are a version of such mindfulness practice.

To get lost into the flow of a pleasurable or creative activity is not mindfulness. It does entail the ability to concentrate. When we do a task for hours, we get so absorbed into what we are doing, that we lose track of time. But one could not remember much of what had happened during all those hours. When one meditates, the opposite happens. The emphasis is on putting full mind on the present moment and being aware. Mindfulness is comprised of insight; the ability to learn about self in relationship to the present moment experience.


Posted October 15, 2013 by dranilj1 in Mind and Heart

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