Believe in your own thought. You do as you feel when you feel it is right. If you believe in yourself you do not have to depend on others to think for you. State aloud your sleeping conviction that is inside you waiting to come out so that they could be universally accepted; for in due time, the inmost becomes the outermost and our first thought will come back to us at the end when it is too late to do anything about it. Speak not what others want you to speak but what you think. Learn to identify and observe that non-directional light that is feeble and unsteady which flashes across your mind from within, more than the stars light of all the poets and philosophers. Our own thoughts are more important for ourselves at least more than all the thoughts of poets and philosophers. We dismiss our thoughts only to recognize it when it comes back to us with a certain alienated majesty from others. We should pay attention to our own thoughts, impressions, observations, and insights. There is one big difference between great poets and thinkers of the past and ourselves and that is they are all dead and we are alive. Stand by your spontaneous impression with a cool detachment to the whole cry of voices on the other side. Else, tomorrow a stranger will say with masterly good sense precisely what you have thought and felt all the time, and you shall be forced to take with shame your own opinion from another. It is so easy to fall in line and do all the things that the society associates with a perfect life. It is the good people, with good causes, who can really suck you in.
Why women want to cuddle after sex? After sex, women are high on endorphins and want to savor the buzz by feeling man’s body against hers. Women like to make eye contact and stay close after the deed is done. Women need the intimacy of post-coital connection. Women like to gaze into a man’s eyes. Post-sex affection has a big impact on sexual satisfaction and relationship with their partners.
The post-sex affection like kissing, caressing and love-talk have long-lasting effects like higher levels of satisfaction with sex lives and relationships. Post-sex affection promotes bonding and sexual satisfaction. Time spent cuddling after sex has a strong impact on relationship. Bonding time after sex is important for those who face challenges finding time for intimate connection.
Men and women enjoy sex and intimacy in different ways. There is lot of culture and socialization here. For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously guilty about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers. After sex, women need the reassurance that they, themselves, haven’t abandoned themselves to it for its pleasure.
Before you doze off, wrap your arms around her and let her feel your breath on her neck. Whisper something nice. As your breathing turns to snuffles, she will imagine you are breathing out her essential beauty. Let her think that way as you drift off to sleep.
It is ridiculous for women to claim that separating sex and intimacy is inherently degrading. It is also ridiculous for men to claim that a woman’s need for intimate connection during and after sex is a type of burdensome dependency need. Intimacy can enhance pleasure or detract from pleasure. Objectification can be a springboard to intense pleasure or an obstacle to pleasure. Drawing a line of demarcation about what is healthy or not when it comes to love and sex is dangerous and typically serves neurotic purposes. We should all just get over it.